Enrich your life and find real happiness!

Find tips, ways and wisdom to guide yourself through difficult times. Take a look at your library collection of newly added ‘self help’ books, to heal your heart, develop a better understanding and foster awareness! Happy reading!

Revolution of the soul : awaken to love through raw truth, radical healing, and conscious action / Corn, Seane
“Celebrated yoga teacher and activist Seane Corn shares pivotal accounts of her life with raw honesty–enriched with in-depth spiritual teachings–to help us heal, evolve, and change the world. Just a few of the stops along the way include:   The everyday “angels” Seane finds in the gritty corners of New York’s 1980s East Village; her early struggles as a total yoga-class misfit; the profound shadow work and body-based practices that helped her to heal childhood trauma, OCD, unhealthy behaviors, and relationship wounding; hard-earned lessons from some of the most heartbreaking places on the planet; and many other unforgettable teaching stories.” (adapted from Catalogue)

Zest : how to squeeze the max out of life / Cope, Andrew
“Grown-ups have become Groan-ups. They know they should be making the best of it, but don’t actually know what their ‘best’ looks like anymore. Years of societal conformity have created a beige generation who have lost their identity; forgotten how they once were – buried under a stifling facade of adulthood. But underneath, those moments, memories, passions are still there. If only they could be re-ignited. Other books have light and shade; Zest will explore the dark and blindingly bright.” (adapted from Catalogue)

When you’re not OK : a toolkit for tough times / Stark, Jill
“From Jill Stark, bestselling author of Happy Never After, comes this warm and practical book of tips and wisdom to help guide you through the tough times. This is a self-care manual for the days when you feel alone – the days when you worry that you’re too weird or broken or unfixable to be normal. With compassion, humour, and honesty, Jill offers signposts to help you find the path back to yourself.” (adapted from Catalogue)

Open: Why asking for help can save your life [hardback] / Bridge, Frankie
“Speak out. Ask for help. And be helped. In Open, Frankie Bridge, ex-The Saturdays, opens up about her ongoing journey from breakdown to breakthroughs and through self-loathing, hospitalization and self-acceptance. Part narrative exploration, part practical guide, this book will help you to understand the importance of talking and helping each other in an imperfect world. By opening up about her battles, Frankie wants to help a generation of people to be more open about their mental health.” (adapted from Catalogue)

The feel good guide : easy steps towards a happier, more fulfilled you / Green, Matilda
“When Matilda Green, bestselling author of The Lazy Girl’s Guide to Living a Beautiful Life, found herself facing some hard times, she knew she needed to do something to boost her happiness and her self-esteem. But what?
So she set out on a journey of discovery, embracing gratitude, mindfulness and meditation techniques, and learning how to be kind to others and to herself. As Matilda says, this isn’t so much about changing who you are as it is about loving who you are. It’s about celebrating yourself, embracing and being proud of the person you have grown to be, and finding the right tools to help you remember just how awesome you really are.” (adapted from Catalogue)

On being human : a memoir of waking up, living real, and listening hard / Pastiloff, Jennifer
“Centered around the touchstone stories Jen tells in her popular workshops, On Being Human is the story of how a starved person grew into the exuberant woman she was meant to be all along by battling the demons within and winning. Through her journey, Jen conveys the experience most of us are missing in our lives: being heard and being told, “I got you.”   Exuberant, triumphantly messy, and brave, On Being Human is a celebration of happiness and self-realization over darkness and doubt.” (adapted from Catalogue)

Time and how to spend it : the 7 rules for richer, happier days / Wallman, James
“If the most precious thing we have is time, the most highly prized expertise should be knowing how to spend it well. Yet, busier than ever, do we really understand which experiences bring us joy and success, and which don’t? This life-enhancing book will show you how to be the hero or heroine of your own story. You’ll not only be living the good life, but building a truly great life.” (adapted from Catalogue)

Tame your anxiety : rewiring your brain for happiness / Breuning, Loretta Graziano
“Anxiety is natural. Calm is learned. If you didn’t learn yesterday, you can learn today. It’s not easy, of course. Once your natural alarm system is triggered, it’s hard to find the off switch. Understanding the underlying mechanisms will help you stop them before they get ahead of you.” (adapted from Catalogue)

The secret of developing confidence – ‘Self Help’ new books for November

Confidence is not something we either have or don’t have – it can be built with self-belief. Reach your full potential and follow your path to confidence, with various ideas and tips you ‘ll find in the selection of new ‘Self-Help’ books we have chosen for you. Happy reading!

Be calm : proven techniques to stop anxiety now / Weber, Jill P.
“Stop anxiety wherever and whenever it starts. If you suffer from anxiety, you’re not alone – like forty million Americans, you know symptoms can strike anytime, anywhere. Relief is here. Be Calm targets symptoms wherever they strike with cutting-edge techniques that help you reduce anxiety on the spot. This book is both a handy resource for stress management and a close look into the causes of anxiety.” (adapted from Catalogue)

10% happier : how I tamed the voice in my head, reduced stress without losing my edge, and found self-help that actually works : a true story / Harris, Dan
“Nightline anchor Dan Harris embarks on an unexpected, hilarious, and deeply skeptical odyssey through the strange worlds of spirituality and self-help, and discovers a way to get happier that is truly achievable. After having a nationally televised panic attack, Dan Harris knew he had to make some changes. A lifelong nonbeliever, he found himself on a bizarre adventure involving a disgraced pastor, a mysterious self-help guru, and a gaggle of brain scientists. 10% Happier takes readers on a ride from the outer reaches of neuroscience to the inner sanctum of network news to the bizarre fringes of America’s spiritual scene, and leaves them with a takeaway that could actually change their lives.” (adapted from Catalogue)

You’re crushing it : positivity for living your real life / Croucher, Lex
“Sometimes life can be pretty amazing. But other times… No, Instagram filters won’t make it look any better. And, yes, we all feel this way. An honest, thoughtful and hilarious survival guide for young people by social media sensation, Lex Croucher. Learn that you can face whatever today throws at you, because it has terrible aim anyway. And realise that only you scrutinise your flaws – seriously, no one else is paying attention, there’s far too much interesting stuff on Netflix. A must-read for anyone who wants to embrace their actual, real, unedited life.” (adapted from Catalogue)

Mentors : how to help and be helped / Brand, Russell
“Russell Brand explores the idea of mentoring and shares what he’s learned from the guidance of his own helpers, heroes and mentors. Could happiness lie in helping others and being open to accepting help yourself? Mentors – the follow up to Sunday Times number one bestseller, Recovery – describes the benefits of seeking and offering help. It explores how we all – consciously and unconsciously – choose guides, mentors and heroes throughout our lives and examines the new perspectives they can bring.” (adapted from Catalogue)

Overdrive cover Brave New Girl, Chloe Brotheridge (Audiobook)
Penguin presents the audiobook edition of Brave New Girl, written and read by Chloe Brotheridge. Be the most confident version of yourself. How would you act if you didn’t care what people thought? Who would you be, if you knew for sure that you were worthy, loved and accepted? What would you do if you knew failure was just a stepping stone, not a final resting place? Brave New Girl is a straightforward guide to building more self-belief and reducing the need to people-please. Chloe will help you feel more confident, show you how you can reach your full potential, and teach you how to assertively set boundaries for a happier, healthier you. (adapted from Overdrive description)

Taming the black dog / Aisbett, Bev
“First published in 2000, Bev Aisbett’s classic, simple and easy-to-follow guide to overcoming depression Taming the Black Dog has sold over 220,000 copies and helped thousands of people manage their depression. Now expanded and fully revised, this updated edition of Taming the Black Dog features Bev Aisbett’s unique blend of information, humour and clear, simple and practical advice. It is an invaluable guide and source of information for both chronic sufferers of depression as well as anyone with a fit of ‘the blues’. Over 1 in 5 people will suffer some form of depression at some point in their lives, so Taming the Black Dog is a more important resource than ever before.” (adapted from Catalogue)

The baby loss guide : Practical and compassionate support with a day-by-day resource to navigate the path of grief / Clark-Coates, Zoë
“Zoë Clark-Coates and her husband Andy have personally faced the loss of five babies. Out of their experiences came the charity, The Mariposa Trust, which offers support to thousands of grieving parents and relatives around the world each week. In this book Zoë draws on her own experiences and expertise to help you through your darkest days and navigate this complex path.” (Catalogue)

New library books to help you discover yourself

This month’s selection of books will offer you tips and advice on how to get to know yourself and transform your life. Enjoy reading!

Transforming your life through self-care : a guide to tapping into your deep beauty and inner worth / Brent, Carolyn A.
“Stop living in the poor me world and take purposeful action with discipline and determination to practice self-care, no matter what your age. This book shows you how to become your own caregiver by tapping into your deep beauty and inner worth and transforming yourself through exercise, diet, meditation, and getting rid of toxic relationships. This motivational self-help book outlines the necessary self-care actions to achieve success in your new lifestyle and wellness journey.(adapted from Catalogue)

Best self : be you, only better / Bayer, Mike
“Ask yourself…Are you truly Who You Want To Be? Is this the life you really want? What can you change? How would you answer those questions? Think about your daily life. Are you thriving, or going through the motions. Are your days full of work, relationships and activities that are true to your authentic self, or do you feel trapped on a treadmill of responsibility? If you dream of a better life, now is the time to turn your dream into reality.Best Self will show you how  to design a life that is fulfilling on the deepest levels” (adapted from Catalogue)

Wholehearted : slow down, help out, wake up / Ellison, Koshin Paley
“An inspiring book that will help readers rediscover their values and discover a way to truly live life to the fullest. Each of us has an enormous capacity for love–a deep well of attention and care that we can offer to ourselves and others. With guidance that is both simple and wholly transformative, Koshin Paley Ellison, Zen teacher and psychotherapist, shows us how to uncover it: pay attention, be of service, and be with others. With this inspiring book, you’ll learn how to identify the mental habits that could be hurting yourself.” (adapted from Catalogue)

The wisdom of anxiety : how worry and intrusive thoughts are gifts to help you heal / Paul, Sheryl
“For anyone troubled by obsessive thoughts, insomnia, and other manifestations of anxiety, counselor Sheryl Paul offers a shelter in the storm. In The Wisdom of Anxiety, Paul reveals that anxiety, like any emotion, is a signal – a clear bodily invitation to heal and renew your trust in your choices, self-image, and core values. Weaving together practical exercises, Jungian analysis, and lyrical personal stories, Paul offers drug-free approaches to renew your trust in your self.”  (adapted from Catalogue)

The shame factor : heal your deepest fears and set yourself free / Poulter, Stephan B
“A popular clinical psychologist explores an often misunderstood and unrecognized emotion that’s the root cause of many self-defeating and harmful behaviors. Emotional paralysis, a distorted view of self, a feeling of being a fraud, lack of trust in others, fear of criticism resulting in underdeveloped talents, and a chronic sense of being worthless, invisible, or disposable–these are typical symptoms of shame. This is a book full of insight and understanding, one that can help most of us discover and realize our full potentials.” (adapted from Catalogue)

Striving for self-improvement and happiness!

Discover ways to find happiness and achieve your family goals with ideas and tips found in these newly arrived library books. Happy reading!

Listen to me! : taking the conflict out of child discipline / Martin, Anna
“Are you confused by all the different parenting advice on how to discipline your child? Have you been trying a variety of different methods for years that don’t really work or feel uncomfortable to use? Regardless of your situation, you might find it helpful to change the way you think about discipline altogether. Dr Anna Martin has turned traditional methods on their head to come up with effective strategies that put listening and the wellbeing of children before lecturing.” (adapted from Catalogue)

Raising girls in the twenty-first century / Biddulph, Steve
“Steve Biddulph’s Raising Boys was a global phenomenon. The first book in a generation to look at boys’ specific needs, parents loved its clarity and warm insights into their sons’ inner world. But today, things have changed. It’s girls that are in trouble.” (Catalogue)

Maybe you should talk to someone : a therapist, her therapist, and our lives revealed / Gottlieb, Lori
“With starting wisdom and humor, Gottlieb invites us into her world as both clinician and patient, examining the truths and fictions we tell ourselves and others as we teeter on the tightrope between love and desire, meaning and mortality, guilt and redemption, terror and courage, hope and change. This book is revolutionary in its candor, offering a deeply personal yet universal tour of our hearts and minds. It reveals what it means to be human!” (Catalogue)

Girl, stop apologizing : a shame-free plan for embracing and achieving your goals / Hollis, Rachel
Rachel Hollis knows that many women have been taught to define themselves in light of other people–whether as wife, mother, daughter, or employee–instead of learning how to own who they are and what they want. With a challenge to women everywhere to stop talking themselves out of their dreams, Hollis identifies the excuses to let go of, the behaviors to adopt, and the skills to acquire on the path to growth, confidence, and believing in yourself.” (Dust jacket)

The rise of positive psychology

Find out ways to change the limits of your emotional landscape, control your impulses – and can harness the power of your surroundings to live fuller, healthier and truly joyful lives.

Girl, stop apologizing : a shame-free plan for embracing and achieving your goals / Hollis, Rachel
“It’s known that many women have been taught to define themselves in light of other people–whether as wife, mother, daughter, or employee–instead of learning how to own who they are and what they want. With a challenge to women everywhere to stop talking themselves out of their dreams, Hollis identifies the excuses to let go of, the behaviours to adopt, and the skills to acquire on the path to growth, confidence, and believing in yourself.”–Dust jacket. (Catalogue)

Crappy to happy : simple steps to live your best life / Dunn, Cassandra
“Psychologist Cassandra Dunn believes that happiness is available to all of us – and not just in some picture-perfect ideal life. Cass has helped thousands of people get from Crappy to Happy with her hit podcast. In this book Cass expands on those conversations and provides even more information and practical tools, helping you learn to let go, to find your people, to determine your direction and more. Your journey to living your best life begins right here and now.” (Catalogue)

Joyful : the surprising power of ordinary things to create extraordinary happiness / Lee, Ingrid Fetell
“Have you ever wondered why we stop to watch the orange glow that arrives before sunset, or why we flock to see cherry blossoms bloom in spring? Is there a reason that people — regardless of gender, age, culture, or ethnicity — are mesmerized by baby animals, and can’t help but smile when they see a burst of confetti or a cluster of colourful balloons? In Joyful, designer Ingrid Fetell Lee explores how the seemingly mundane spaces and objects we interact with every day have surprising and powerful effects on our mood and, most importantly, she reveals how we can harness the power of our surroundings to live fuller, healthier, and truly joyful lives.” (Catalogue)

Crash test girl : an unlikely experiment in using the scientific method to answer life’s toughest questions / Byron, Kari
“Have questions about your sexuality? Alcohol? Depression? Byron, a former co-host of “MythBusters,” demonstrates how to use the scientific method for solving everyday problems. Question. Hypothesize. Experiment. Analyze. Conclude. So strap in, put on your safety goggles, and learn from the results.” (Catalogue)

The Spartan way : eat better, train better, think better, be better / De Sena, Joe
“Joe De Sena has one ultimate goal: to help improve everyone’s physical and emotional health by teaching them the tenets of Spartan living from ancient Greece: simple eating, smart training, mastering resilience, and an all-out commitment to achieving a goal. Like Spartan training, living The Spartan Way requires endurance to reach your finish line, the goal that inspires and drives you to succeed no matter what obstacles are thrown in your path. De Sena believes you can gain that endurance in just thirty-six days by following the ten Spartan Core Virtues, timeless principles to help you embrace adversity and overcome any challenge, and making them a permanent part of your own personal core.” (Catalogue)

Raising girls in the twenty-first century : helping our girls to grow up wise, strong and free / Biddulph, Steve
“Raising Girls is powerful, practical and positive. Your heart, head and hands will be strengthened by its message. It talks to the world’s leading voices on girls’ needs and makes their ideas clear and simple. Great tips for parents how to deal with the modern world, and ways getting the media off the backs of their daughters.” (Syndetics summary)

The best you: New self-help books

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2019 has seen an abundance of new self-help books come through the door. So many great inspirational reads here to choose from to help you stay on track with those ‘levelling up’ goals for the year. Enjoy!

Best self: be you, only better / Bayer, Mike
“Life coach Mike Bayer has helped all kinds of clients, from pop artists to athletes to top level business executives to families in refugee camps, to ordinary people like you and me. His unparalleled passion for helping people, and a desire to make mental health care as mainstream as going to the gym is what brought him to the attention of Dr. Phil. With this book, Coach Mike’s simple yet powerful tools are ready for the mainstream, so that everyone can live the authentic life they truly desire and deserve.” (Catalogue)

Happy ever after: escaping the myth of the perfect life / Dolan, Paul
“Be ambitious; find everlasting love; look after your health–there are countless stories about how we ought to live our lives. These narratives can make our lives easier, and they might sometimes make us happier too. But they can also trap us and those around us. Here, happiness expert Professor Paul Dolan draws on a wealth of evidence to bust the common myths about our sources of happiness and shows that there can be many unexpected paths to lasting happiness.” (Catalogue)

Lead yourself to success: ordinary people achieving extraordinary results through self-leadership / Chambers, Alan
“This book shows you how to develop the leadership mindset to get wherever you want to go in life, trust your own judgement and come out on top of the world. Uncover your inner leadership potential. Find the adventure in everyday life. Alan helps thousands of people every year unlock the door to higher performance. Every single one of those people was a leader waiting to happen, even if they didn’t know it – but once they truly realised where their potential could take them, they became unstoppable.” (Catalogue)

Kidding: childlike solutions to bullsh*t adult problems / Williams, Laura
“Consider this your permission slip to relax, laugh, and finally find happiness. At once hilarious, irreverent, and downright inspiring, Kidding shows you how to connect with your inner child to make your mundane, complicated adult life much simpler (and happier). It’s a book about using your imagination and creativity to find joy, and about being happier by being who you are-which is to say, by being a big kid at heart. Kids do whatever the f*ck they want, precisely because they want to. To put it simply, kids have the answers, man.” (Adapted from Catalogue)

Mastering adulthood: go beyond adulting to become an emotional grown-up / Fielding, Lara E.
“Whoever said being a grownup was easy? For millennials up to the challenge, Mastering Adulthood offers smart and entertaining strategies for dealing with difficult emotions while facing the new realities of adulthood–such as graduating from college, starting a career, gaining financial independence, and creating meaningful relationships. More than just “adulting”–this book gives readers the emotional skills they need to thrive!” (Catalogue)

Already brilliant: play to your strengths in work and life / Bridge, Rachel
“Packed with practical tips, ideas and interviews with successful people in all walks of life, and supported by academic research, Already Brilliant will show you how to find a way of working that suits you best, how to begin developing good habits and how to overcome any obstacles standing in your way. And even better, how to turn those obstacles into advantages that will help rather than hinder you. You don’t have to live with the choices you have made. With this book, you can start afresh and make the changes you need to get to where you want to be. It’s time to get going.” (Adapted from Catalogue)

Accept, value and empower yourself: a practical guide to building self-esteem / Bonham-Carter, David
“A practical guide to help you believe in yourself and feel better. A Practical Guide to Building Self-Esteem brings you easy-to-follow techniques for improving your self-image, so you can achieve a realistic and positive view of yourself and live a happier and more successful life. A positive self-image can help you to improve your relationships and focus on what matters to you, whether that’s dealing with feelings of inadequacy, exploring your creativity, or improving physical fitness.” (Catalogue)

A talk with author Patti Clark

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Do you long to lead an extraordinary life?

Come and hear author Patti Clark talk about her book This Way Up at the Central Library on Thursday 20 October at 1pm on the ground floor. She will discuss the motivation secrets she uses to help others effect positive change in their lives.

From Patti:
“This Way Up is a self-help book aimed primarily at women, but really it’s relevant to everyone.  It’s a story of healing for people who, after spending a lot of their  life nurturing and giving to others, struggle with feeling purposeless.
The first half of the book is a story, and the second half is a workbook.  The workbook’s aim is to help readers work through personal challenges, discover new inspiration, and harness their creative power. It’s a step-by-step way out of this sense of loss and into a life filled with meaning and joy.

From a Reader:
“This Way Up heals and transforms lives. Too often women struggle to find a purpose, after spending much of their life nurturing and giving to others. It’s a story and built-in workbook that supports you through personal challenges, unlocks inspiration through visualisation and harnesses creative power. Author, Patti Clark’s easy seven tools guide you out of feeling a sense of loss and into a life filled with enthusiasm, creativity, and abundant joy.”

In the Press:
http://www.stuff.co.nz/waikato-times/news/hauraki-herald/84408297/self-help-book-this-way-up-launched-in-thames