Hot and Bothered – Navigating Perimenopause for Generation X

In the media and entertainment, we’re always hearing about what’s happening with the Millennial, Boomer and now Generation Z women, but in that we seem to have lost most traces of the Heathers, Clueless Chers, Riot Grrrls and Mallrats of Generation X.  At this point in time, many Gen X women find themselves sandwiched between Zoomer kids and Boomer parents, still in the thick of the careers we fought so hard for and realising that when we tried to have it all, we realised we probably didn’t really want it all.

Let’s not forget that we’re also smack bang in mid-life right as the world is in a global pandemic.

Of course the looming reality for most Generation X women is menopause.  If we’re not already well on our way to it, it’s on the horizon in the next few years.  Unfortunately it’s still a subject that is considered taboo and is not often discussed – our mothers and grandmothers whispered about “the change” and generally swept all that was happening to them aside.  Of course the younger generation of women is definitely not interested, because who wants to think about getting older?  But there is plenty of information available through your local library, for you to go boldly forth into your future and to stimulate discussion with your peers.

Try a few of these out:

Hormone repair manual : every woman’s guide to healthy hormones after 40 / Briden, Lara
“The Hormone Repair Manual is a must-have guide to understanding and overcoming the symptoms of perimenopause and menopause. Naturopath Lara Briden, author of the international bestseller Period Repair Manual, has more than 20 years’ experience in women’s health. The Hormone Repair Manual is backed by evidence-based research and case studies and is a reassuring guide to soothing, nourishing and strengthening your body, mind and spirit during this time of change.” (adapted from catalogue)

The complete guide to the menopause : your toolkit to take control and achieve life-long health / Mukherjee, Annice
“Dr Annice Mukherjee went through the menopause at just 41 following a breast cancer diagnosis, and she is also a top UK hormone specialist with nearly 30 years of experience. In this book she combines her medical expertise and personal experience to develop an essential menopause toolkit offering balanced, practical and comprehensive advice designed for our modern world. The author has used her unique holistic system to help thousands of women look better, feel younger and enjoy an improved quality of life in the long term.” (Catalogue)

The menopause manifesto : own your health with facts and feminism / Gunter, Jen
“The only thing predictable about menopause is its unpredictability. Factor in widespread misinformation, a lack of research, and the culture of shame around women’s bodies, and it’s no wonder women are unsure what to expect during the menopause transition and beyond. Knowing what is happening, why, and what to do about it is both empowering and reassuring. Filled with practical, reassuring information, this essential guide will revolutionize how women experience menopause–including how their lives can be even better for it!” (adapted from catalogue)

Our hormones, our health : how to understand your hormones and transform your life / Esche-Belke, Susanne
“A handbook for women who want to understand their hormones and transform their lives for the better. Written by two doctors from their experience as practitioners and as women, and full of pioneering knowledge from epigenetics, stress medicine, nutritional medicine, and modern hormone replacement therapy, Our Hormones, Our Health aims to show women how to live with good health, good humour, and much happiness — no matter what their stage of life.” (adapted from catalogue) eBook version here

Perimenopause power : navigating your hormones on the journey to menopause / Hill, Maisie
“Perimenopause Power is a handbook that exudes calm positivity and makes sense of complex physiological processes in an easy-to-understand manner, helping women to understand what the hell’s going on with them and provide instruction on what can be done to improve their experience of the dreaded “change.” Maisie Hill, the celebrated author of Period Power, delves into the science of menopause in an accessible way and provides a whole slew of tips to see women through the challenge of wildly fluctuating hormones.” (adapted from catalogue) eBook version here

What fresh hell is this? : perimenopause, menopause, other indignities, and you / Corinna, Heather
“Heather Corinna tells you what can happen and what you can do to take care of yourself, all the while busting pernicious myths, offering real self-care tips – the kind that won’t break the bank or your soul – and running the gamut from hot flashes to hormone therapy. With practical, clear information and support, inclusive of those with disabilities, queer, transgender, nonbinary and other gender-diverse people, people of colour, working class and others who have long been left out of the discussion, What Fresh Hell Is This? is the cooling pillow and empathetic best friend to help you through the fire.” (adapted from catalogue)

The M word : how to thrive in menopause / Mansberg, Ginni
“The time is ripe for a book that lifts negative connotations around the experience of peri-menopause/menopause and Dr Mansberg is perfectly placed to do just that. A practicing GP and mother who has just turned 50 herself, Ginni has written a solution-focused book for understanding, embracing and (even) enjoying this stage in a woman’s life. She outlines medical science, explaining what happens at a cellular level in the body once key hormones begin to diminish; she details symptoms and experience; then explores pros and cons of treatment options, as well as home remedies.” (adapted from catalogue) eBook version here

The new hot : navigating the menopause with attitude and style / Mathews, Meg
“When Meg Mathews hit menopause she was shocked at the lack of awareness, understanding and support shown to women – and also found the information available far too dreary. After getting her symptoms under control she became determined to help other women avoid an experience like hers. The New Hot is her no-holds-barred guide to menopause designed to entertain and empower women in equal measure. It’s full of Meg’s personal insights as well as the latest information and advice from a wide range of menopause and lifestyle experts.” (Adapted from Catalogue) eBook version here

Older and wider : a survivor’s guide to the menopause / Eclair, Jenny
“Older and Wider is Jenny Eclair’s hilarious, irreverent and refreshingly honest compendium of the menopause. From C for Carb-loading and G for Getting Your Shit Together to I for Invisibility and V for Vaginas, Jenny’s whistle-stop tour of the menopause in all its glory will make you realise that it really isn’t just you. Jenny will share the surprising lessons she has learnt along the way as well as her hard-won tips on the joy of cardigans, dealing with the empty nest (get a lodger) and keeping the lid on the pressure cooker of your temper (count to twenty, ten is never enough).” (adapted from catalogue)

Perimenopower / Wilk, Katarina
“We hear a lot these days about the menopause, but there may be up to fifteen years of hormonal changes in a woman’s body before she reaches the point where her periods stop. These years can be turbulent both emotionally and physically – with panic attacks, insomnia, acne, hot flashes, weight gain and low moods. As our hormones fluctuate from our mid-thirties, so do the needs of our bodies. With the right lifestyle and dietary changes, you can turn the perimenopause into a powerful life transition towards a stronger, healthier and happier you.” (adapted from catalogue)

Special mention, just for entertainment value…

Turns out, I’m fine / Lucy, Judith
“Judith Lucy was just Great! Sure, the last remaining member of her immediate family had died, she was menopausal, she suspected her career was in the shitter and it seemed like the world was going to hell in a handbasket – but she was about to move in with the love of her life! Everything would work out because SHE HAD A MAN. Then, in the space of twenty-four hours, her relationship came apart and so did she. A broken heart became the catalyst for a complete existential melt down. She was nearly fifty, suddenly alone and unsure about every aspect of her life. How had this happened? Should she blame one of her four parents? What part had the comedy world played and was her disastrous history with men about more than just bad taste? In her most candid and insightful book yet, Judith figures out what went wrong and then turns her attention to finding out what her life might look like if it went right. She tries everything from dating a tree to getting a portrait of her vulva done to swimming with a whale shark. Thanks to a series of revelations and a slight drowning experience, Judith slowly starts to realise that her life is still full of possibilities and despite death, heartache and a dry vagina it turns out … she’s fine.” (Catalogue)

For many more titles on the topic, click here.

And don’t forget:

Learn about local services at the Health & Wellbeing Expo

Health & Wellbeing Expo with white frame“It’s a new dawn, it’s a new day, it’s a new life…”

Pencil Saturday 21 February in your calendar for a visit to our Central Library Expo on Health & Wellbeing, where local, not for profit organisations will be presenting their services and answering your questions on the valuable help & advice they provide. Young or old, suffering from mental illness or the friend, relative or colleague of a person struggling with an addiction or dealing with abuse, these organisations can offer you some support.
Come and find out how they can help.

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Community Law Wellington and Hutt Valley provides community legal services for unmet legal needs. Drop-in free legal advice sessions are available for initial legal information and advice. CLW are committed to informing and educating our community about legal rights and responsibilities by producing a range of plain-English legal publications. They provide legal education on different topics and in different formats as well as restorative justice services throughout the Wellington region.

Literacy Aotearoa

Literacy Aotearoa Wellington  exists to support adult learners to improve their numeracy, literacy and computer skills, but it’s also about increasing confidence. By providing a whanau style learning environment, with a particular focus on Pasifika and Maori adults, those who may have previously struggled at school feel comfortable and safe to learn and make mistakes. We run a variety of learning programme, here are some examples of what you could learn:

  • Reading and understanding
  • Writing, spelling, grammar
  • Numbers
  • Financial literacy/budgeting
  • Communication skills
  • Vocabulary/New words
  • Speaking and listening
  • Road code
  • Using computers
  • Job hunting, CV writing and interview skills
  • Workplace writing skills

All of our courses are provided at no cost to the learner.

Youthline

Youthline Wellington provide an accessible and relevant counselling and educational service to young people and the community, with a particular emphasis on well being and stress management. Youthline aims to deliver telephone and text counselling daily and education programmes primarily to youth in the Wellington region, but also to others in need.

Wellington HELP

Wellington Sexual Abuse HELP Foundation offer services for those effected by sexual abuse, rape and all forms of sexual violence including:
24/7 crisis support service following sexual assault,
Counselling for those effected by sexual violence and those recovering from family violence,
Information and support for families, professionals and others helping those recovering from abuse,
Consultation service about preventing and responding well to child sexual abuse.

Atareira

Atareira is a Wellington based organisation providing mental health support for families and whanau of people with mental health or addiction issues:
One in five new Zealanders will experience a mental illness at some stage in their lives. People do not become unwell in isolation and this means that the people who love and care for them will also be affected.
Free services include:
Face to face and telephone support, information about mental illness, addictions and treatment options, advocacy and liaison with mental health and community services, specialist support for children and counselling.
Easy Access Housing:
Supportive landlord service that offers temporary/transitional housing for those who are experiencing housing difficulties in relation to their mental illness or addiction issues
Community Activity and Participation Service:
A range of community based activities are organised for people with mental health or addiction problems.

PGF

The Problem Gambling Foundation of New Zealand (PGF) is the largest single treatment provider for problem gambling in Australasia with over 60 locations throughout New Zealand.
PGF’s mission is building healthy communities together, free from gambling harm.
PGF has both a clinical component whereby qualified counsellors provide free, professional and confidential counselling for gamblers and others affected by gambling and a dedicated public health team that works in the community to raise awareness about problem gambling and minimise gambling-related harm.

Age concern

Dedicated to older New Zealanders, Age Concern promotes dignity and respect for all older people as well as providing expert information and support services in response to older people’s needs including:
Support Services, Information, Advice and Personal Advocacy: Responding in person/phone to a range of queries from older people and their carers eg. Advising where to obtain a service, what is available. Providing confidential support and empowerment to older people.
Information Resources: Providing pamphlets and other written resources.
Visiting Services: Providing visitors who make regular visits to socially isolated older people in their homes via Age Concern Accredited Visiting Service.
Education: Holding education seminars for the public and Rest Homes, e.g. Positive Ageing, Elder Abuse and Neglect Prevention, Enduring Power of Attorney.
Elder Abuse and Neglect Prevention Service: Providing confidential support, advocacy and information for people facing elder abuse and neglect.
Representation: Providing representation and advice on older peoples’ issues to local influential groups eg. City Councils.
Other services: Staying Safe Driving Courses.

Women's refuge

Women’s Refuge is New Zealand’s most significant domestic violence organisation helping women who are living in fear in their relationship or family and those who know someone who is.
All women of New Zealand and their children are welcome to free advice, emergency accommodation and confidential advocacy services provided by women.
Women’s Refuge can:
Talk to you if you’re worried about your safety in your relationship and help you make a Safety Plan
Provide a safe place to go to if you need help urgently
Help you stand up for your needs whether or not you are thinking about leaving.

sorted

Sorted.org.nz offers New Zealanders free, impartial information and calculators to help manage their money throughout life.

The range of tools offered include:
Budget planner
Debt calculators that show you how long it will take to pay off your debt.
Apps such as money personality profilers, which discover how your personality affects the way you manage your money.
Goal worksheets, to plan and track your financial goals.
Advice to plan for those life-changing moments such as going flatting for the first time, buying a home or having a baby as well as planning for retirement.

 

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