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Looking at our life as a work of art – New Self help books in January

What if our life was the biggest and greatest creative project of all? This month’s selected titles books can help you pave the way to a meaningful, fulfilled and creative life, one step at a time. Do not forget to enjoy every step of the way.

Syndetics book coverThe creative fight : create your best work and live the life you imagine
“Creativity is not a gift for a select few, but an ongoing process of growth and self-realization available to anyone who puts in the effort to pursue the spark. In this book, Chris Orwig, author, teacher, photographer and creator of 96 courses at Lynda.com (free access with Wellington City Libraries card), offers a unique perspective on the creative process, showing you how to find meaning in your work, be inspired, and discover the life for which you were designed. For more resources and inspiration, check out the book’s companion site, thecreativefight.com.” (Adapted from Syndetics)

Syndetics book coverHow to think like Einstein : simple ways to break the rules and discover your hidden genius
How to Think Like Einstein provides the tools for the everyday challenges at the home and in the office. Innovator and author Scott Thorpe guides you step-by-step through the process of freeing yourself from your “rule ruts” so you can dream up amazing (and doable) solutions to the seemingly impossible. With brand-new material for today’s readers, this new edition will reveal how you can solve problems in astonishing ways.” (Syndetics)

51dsOYwCtxLVital signs : the environmental trends that are shaping our future
Vital Signs is about what inspires passion and what defeats it. How we lose it and how we get it back. And ultimately it’s about the endless yet endlessly fruitful tug-of-war between freedom and domestication, the wild in us and the tame, our natural selves and our conditioned selves. Each chapter in Vital Signs will contain a core sample, an intimate biography of one of the strategies we employ to gain or regain our passion. The book also affirms the importance of courageous inquiry into dispassion—where we’re numb, depressed, stuck, bored—so the reader can recognize and change these tendencies in themselves.” (From amazon.com)

Syndetics book coverThe art of living
The Art of Living presents transcripts from legendary business speaker and mentor Bob Proctor’s most popular workshop—Matrixx—and brings this wisdom to a wider audience. Readers will marvel at Proctor’s miraculous way of disseminating his decades of business wisdom into easy-to-understand parables and learn lessons on what our creative faculties are and how to use them, why we need to unlearn most of the false beliefs we’ve been indoctrinated with our whole lives, and how our intellects have the ability not only to put us ahead in life, but also to be our biggest detriment.” (Back cover)

Syndetics book cover1001 ideas that changed the way we think
“Our view of the world today has emerged through the questions, theories, speculations and hypotheses raised by brilliant minds over millennia. Their once-radical propositions are now accepted truths. Drawing on a wide spectrum of topics – including politics, cosmology, the arts, philosophy, and religious beliefs – 1001 Ideas That Shaped the Way We Think traces the exponential growth of human knowledge across the centuries.” (Adapted from Syndetics)

Syndetics book coverWired to create : unraveling the mysteries of the creative mind
Wired to Create offers a glimpse inside the “messy minds” of highly creative people. Revealing the latest findings in neuroscience and psychology, along with engaging examples of artists and innovators throughout history, the book shines a light on the practices and habits of mind that promote creative thinking. Kaufman and Gregoire untangle a series of paradoxes– like mindfulness and daydreaming, seriousness and play, openness and sensitivity, and solitude and collaboration – to show that it is by embracing our own contradictions that we are able to tap into our deepest creativity.” (Syndetics)

Syndetics book coverCoach your own life : break down the barriers to success
“This updated new edition of a dynamic and motivating guide will give you the resources and toolkit to coach yourself to an improved and enhanced performance in all areas of your life. Covering everything from career development to personal relationships, appearance and money management, it offers a program of change and progress for each area, while encouraging you to examine your own beliefs, confidence and motivation to ensure that change is for the better and for the long-term. This new edition also contains plenty of tools and advice to help you overcome blockages and obstacles, develop resilience, and become more mindful.” (Syndetics)

Syndetics book coverMindfulness in motion : a happier, healthier life through body-centred meditation
“This book will guide you step by step through Dr Tamara Russell’s Body in Mind Training (BMT) programme, a unique approach to secular mindfulness that uses the moving body as the main meditation tool. The message is simple: getting out of your head and into your body is the key to a happier, healthier life. With easy-to-follow exercises, step-by-step photographs, clear brain diagrams and a host of practical tips, this book offers all the tools you need to start living in your body. With a little focus, determination and practice, you too can experience the amazing benefits of mindfulness!” (Syndetics)

Syndetics book coverSecular meditation : 32 practices for cultivating inner peace, compassion, and joy
“As meditation teacher Rick Heller shows, the benefits of the practice extend beyond the personal to enrich relationships with others, with one’s community, and with the world. In Secular Meditation, step-by-step instructions, personal stories, and provocative questions teach empathy for others, stress reduction, and the kind of in-the-moment living that fosters appreciation for life and resilience in the face of adversity.” (Syndetics)

Syndetics book coverThe mindful home : the secrets to making your home a place of harmony, beauty, wisdom and true happiness
“A house is physical but a home is far more subtle and elusive. This book takes the view that being ‘at home’ is a metaphor for finding ourselves — finding our core. What do we find at our core? As the world’s greatest wisdom traditions point out, home is about qualities that we equate with ‘good’ itself — true happiness, peace, beauty, wisdom and inspiration. It is also about the good things in life such as harmony, relationships, health and wealth.” (Syndetics)

Syndetics book coverFly with me : true inspirational stories for travellers through life
“The skies have beckoned mankind for centuries but it’s only in the last couple of decades that air travel has become affordable to the masses. What an incredible privilege to see our planet from a distance. How amazing to take in views of fiery sunsets, cotton puff clouds and glistening lakes. Fly With Me is a collection of true stories that relate the experiences of flying to everyday life. Anyone who has flown will be able to relate to these stories of turbulence, human emotion, long hours in the sky, and the simple joy of being free from earth for a brief time.” (Syndetics)

Saying yes to life – Self Help picks for January

At the end of a year and the beginning of the next, we examine our lives, our minds and our hearts, take stock and make decisions on how we will move forward. In this reflective time, why not take inspiration from Shonda Rhimes and her commitment to say Yes to what life throws at her, or find solace, humour and guidance in Mark Rowlands’ A Good Life.

Syndetics book coverYear of yes
“The talented creator of Grey’s Anatomy and Scandal and executive producer of How to Get Away With Murder chronicles how saying YES for one year changed her life and how it can change yours, too. There was the side benefit of saying No for an introvert like Shonda: nothing new to fear. Then Shonda’s sister laid down a challenge: just for one year, try to say YES to the unexpected invitations that come your way. Shonda reluctantly agreed and the result was nothing short of transformative. In The Year of Yes, Shonda Rhimes chronicles the powerful impact saying Yes had on every aspect of her life and how we can all change our lives with one little word.” (Syndetics)

Syndetics book coverEvery time I find the meaning of life, they change it : wisdom of the great philosophers on how to live
“A humorous and philosophical trip through life, from the New York Times-bestselling author of Travels with Epicurus. As a young college student studying philosophy, Klein filled a notebook with short quotes from the world’s greatest thinkers, hoping to find some guidance on how to live the best life he could. Now, from the vantage point of his eighth decade, Klein revisits the wisdom he relished in his youth with this collection of philosophical gems. He tackles life’s biggest questions, leaving us entertained and enlightened.” (Syndetics)

Syndetics book coverOur grandchildren redesigned : life in the bioengineered society of the near future
“In this important and timely book, historian Michael Bess provides a clear, nontechnical overview of cutting-edge biotechnology and paints a vivid portrait of a near-future society in which bioenhancement has become a part of everyday life. He surveys the ethical questions raised by the enhancement enterprise and explores the space for human agency in dealing with the challenges that these technologies will present.” (Syndetics)

Syndetics book coverTalking to crazy : how to deal with the irrational and impossible people in your life
“Let’s face it, we all know people who are irrational. No matter how hard you try to reason with them, it never works. So what’s the solution? How do you talk to someone who’s out of control? What can you do with a boss who bullies, a spouse who yells, or a friend who frequently bursts into tears? In his book, Just Listen, Mark Goulston shared his bestselling formula for getting through to the resistant people in your life. Now, in his breakthrough new book Talking to Crazy, he brings his communication magic to the most difficult group of all–the downright irrational.” (Syndetics)

Syndetics book coverUnderneath my clothes : a woman’s guide to making peace with her body
“When and who decided that we should be judged solely by size and appearance? Why do so many of us set our mood for the day when we stand on the bathroom scales? Why does weight loss and being thin so often equate to being successful and beautiful? When we cease this fight, stop the negative internal dialogue and acknowledge our uniqueness by taking full responsibility for our wellbeing, it is only then that we can release our spirit from this struggle and find peace. You have one life to live so dont waste it feeling inferior based on weight, size, appearance or lack of self-worth. Today is a perfect day to change your life and make peace with your body.” (Syndetics)

Syndetics book coverMindfulness for worriers : overcome everyday stress and anxiety
“This accessible book provides readers with mindfulness-based techniques to reduce worry, anxiety, stress and panic attacks. It will help readers deal with anxiety-inducing episodes by learning to accept and overcome strong emotions without getting caught up in negative and damaging thoughts. Aimed at anyone who is stressed or anxious, as well as people suffering from more extreme levels of anxiety, the book will provide the scientific evidence behind the effectiveness of mindfulness as well as lots of practical advice on how to quiet an anxious, racing mind.” (Syndetics)

Syndetics book coverSuspicious minds : why we believe conspiracy theories 
“We’re all conspiracy theorists. Some of us just hide it better than others. In Suspicious Minds, Rob Brotherton explores the history and consequences of conspiracism, and delves into the research that offers insights into why so many of us are drawn to implausible, unproven and unproveable conspiracy theories. Conspiracy theories are not some psychological aberration – they’re a predictable product of how brains work. Of course, just because your brain’s biased doesn’t always mean you’re wrong. Sometimes conspiracies are real. Sometimes, paranoia is prudent.” (Adapted from Syndetics)

Syndetics book coverPrimary greatness : the 12 levers of success
“Dr. Stephen R. Covey’s teachings are beloved and have inspired countless readers and leaders. Primary Greatness once again delivers classic Covey wisdom in a compact and digestible form. In this posthumous work, Covey lays out clearly the 12 levers of success that will lead to a life of primary greatness: Integrity, Contribution, Priority, Sacrifice, Service, Responsibility, Loyalty, Reciprocity, Diversity, Learning, Teaching, and Renewal. For the first time, Covey defines each of these twelve qualities and how they provide the leverage to make your daily life truly “great”.” (From Amazon.com)

41U50ZY8oSL__SX293_BO1,204,203,200_A good life : philosophy from cradle to grave
“A Good Life is one man’s life (birth, death, education, religion, morality, illness and so on) told through a philosophical lens. It is a riveting examination of the ethical questions we face, and the decisions we must make, and a defence of the idea that at the beating heart of morality we find love. A Good Life is sometimes profoundly funny, sometimes deeply serious. It is as readable as a novel and as provocative as the best philosophy. It is the finest work to date by a charming and brilliant thinker.” (From amazon.com)

Human emotions – December Self-help picks

Find your authentic voice and make others hear you with the help of this month’s titles. You will also learn to live more “gamefully” and with gratitude, for a new, lighter outlook on life.

Syndetics book cover Light is the new black : a guide to answering your soul’s calling and working your light
Light Is The New Black is a guidebook for a new breed of women who are here to be bright lights in the world. At the Peace Conference in Canada in 2009, when the Dalai Lama said ‘The world will be saved by the western woman’, it was a call to action for women throughout the West. Light Is The New Black is a response to that call. It guides these women to come back home to who they really are, at soul level, and embrace their uniqueness so they can light up the world in a way that only they can. Gone are the days of following someone else’s well-trodden path.” (Adapted from Syndetics summary)

Syndetics book coverLouder than words : harness the power of your authentic voice
“There has never been a better time to build an audience around your idea or product. But with so many people and companies clamouring for attention, it’s also more challenging than ever to do work that deeply resonates with the marketplace and creates true and lasting impact. Those who identify and develop their voices will gain more attention and wield more influence. Henry offers strategies, exercises, and true stories that illustrate the five attributes of resonant work:  Authenticity, Uniqueness, Consonance, Empathy, Timing. Henry’s book will help readers build a body of work that resonates deeply and achieves lasting impact.” (Adapted from Syndetics summary)

Syndetics book coverIntentional living : choosing a life that matters
“We all have a longing to be significant. We want to make a contribution, to be a part of something noble and purposeful. But many people wrongly believe significance is unattainable. The only thing you need to achieve significance is to be intentional. And to do that, all you need to do is start. You can’t make an impact sitting still and doing nothing. Every major accomplishment that’s ever been achieved started with a first step. This book will help you take that first step, and the ones that follow, on your personal path through a life that matters.” (Syndetics summary)

Syndetics book coverSuperBetter : a revolutionary approach to getting stronger, happier, braver, and more resilient 
“In this book, McGonigal reveals a decade’s worth of scientific research into the ways all games including videogames, sports, and puzzles change how we respond to stress, challenge, and pain. Being gameful means bringing the same psychological strengths we naturally display when we play games such as optimism, creativity, courage, and determination to real-world goals. McGonigal shows that getting superbetter is as simple as tapping into the three core psychological strengths that games help you build. SuperBetter contains nearly 100 playful challenges anyone can undertake in order to build these gameful strengths.” (Syndetics summary)

Syndetics book coverThe gratitude diaries : how a year looking on the bright side transformed my life
The Gratitude Diaries follows journalist and former Parade editor in chief Janice Kaplan as she learns to gain a positive perspective and improve her life by becoming more grateful every day. In her fresh and witty journey, Kaplan discovers that gratitude isn’t the same as happiness (which can be fragile and fleeting) but has deeper emotional roots, is longer-lasting, and is impervious to change or challenges. She interviews dozens of experts and gathers extensive data from the national gratitude survey she conducted, to offer surprising findings about why gratitude changes your outlook in any situation.” (Adapted from Syndetics summary)

Syndetics book coverMindware : tools for smart thinking
“Many scientific and philosophical ideas are so powerful that they can be applied to our lives to help us think smarter and more effectively about our behaviour and the world around us. Surprisingly, many of these ideas remain unknown to most of us. Drawing on his own groundbreaking research, Richard Nisbett presents these ideas in clear and accessible detail to offer a tool kit for better thinking and wiser decisions.” (Syndetics summary)

Syndetics book coverWinners : and how they succeed
“How do sportsmen excel, entrepreneurs thrive, or individuals achieve their ambitions? Is their ability to win innate? Or is the winning mindset something we can all develop? In the tradition of The Talent Code and The Power of Habit, Campbell examines how winners tick. He considers how they build great teams. He analyzes how these people deal with unexpected setbacks and new challenges and sets out a blueprint for winning that we can all follow to achieve our goals.” (Syndetics summary)

Syndetics book coverIntelligence in the flesh : why your mind needs your body much more than it thinks
“If you think that intelligence emanates from the mind and that reasoning necessitates the suppression of emotion, you’d better think again–or rather not “think” at all. Guy Claxton draws on the latest findings in neuroscience and psychology to reveal how our bodies actually constitute the core of our intelligent life. From the endocrinal means by which our organs communicate to the instantaneous decision-making prompted by external phenomena, our bodies are able to perform intelligent computations that we either overlook or wrongly attribute to our brains. Claxton shows how an appreciation of the body’s intelligence will enrich all our lives.” (Syndetics summary)

Syndetics book coverThe book of human emotions : an encyclopedia of feeling from anger to wanderlust
“Recent research suggests there are only six basic emotions. From anger to wanderlust, each entertaining and informative alphabetical entry reveals the surprising connections and fascinating facts behind our emotional lives. Whether you’re in search of the perfect word to sum up that cosy feeling you get from being inside on a cold winter’s night, surrounded by friends and good food (what the Dutch call gezellig), or wondering how nostalgia evolved from a fatal illness to enjoyable self-indulgence, Tiffany Watt Smith covers the globe and draws on history, anthropology, science, art, literature, music and popular culture to find the answers.” (Syndetics summary)

Syndetics book coverFail, fail again, fail better
“When her granddaughter was accepted to Naropa University, the celebrated author Pema Chödrön promised that she’d speak at the commencement ceremony. Fail, Fail Again, Fail Better contains the wisdom shared on that day. “What do we do when life doesn’t go the way we hoped?” begins Pema “We say, ‘I’m a failure.” But what if failing wasn’t just “okay,” but the most direct way to becoming a more complete, loving, and fulfilled human being? Here, Pema Chödrön offers us her heartfelt advice on how to face the unknown – in ourselves and in the world – and how our missteps can open our eyes to see new possibilities and purpose.” (Syndetics summary)

Syndetics book coverBrave enough
“Around the world, thousands of people have found inspiration in the words of Cheryl Strayed, who in her three prior books (including the best-selling Wild) and in her “Dear Sugar” columns has shared the twists and trials of her remarkable life. This book gathers more than 100 of Strayed’s indelible quotes and thoughts–”mini instruction manuals for the soul” that urge us toward the incredible capacity for love, compassion, forgiveness, and endurance that is within us all.” (Adapted from Syndetics summary)

The pursuit of happiness – Self-help Recent Picks for September

This month we read books that challenge many preconceived ideas about the benefits of meditation, listening to our feelings and the trappings of the pursuit of happiness. Intrigued? Read on.

Syndetics book coverHeadlines, headaches and the human condition : when normal doesn’t work and how to deal with it
“Headlines and headaches often happen without malice and regardless of knowledge or skills. The processes we use have helped us evolve and survive for thousands of years but the less we understand them, the more they seem to let us down in modern day situations. Using everyday language and real world examples, Steve Whiddett takes us behind some very public headlines and some very real everyday headaches. Headlines, Headaches and the Human Condition provides insights into situations and the human condition, which will help you change your own situations. It is a book that we can all use to make situations more manageable and more productive for ourselves, for organisations and for society.” (Adapted from Syndetics)

Syndetics book coverThe outside edge : how outsiders can succeed in a world made by insiders.
“Our culture celebrates outsiders while in reality slamming the door in their face. The modern world encourages creativity while shutting-out all but a privileged few from individualistic expression. The Outside Edge is all about learning to harness the unique vantage point you possess in order to give yourself the edge required to succeed. It will show you when to embrace your outsider status and go against convention, and when to play the game, do as the insiders do and make sure you can get progress. Think of The Outside Edge as a manual for positively directing your insecurity, awkwardness and role-confusion towards a meaningful future, shaped and pursued on your own terms.” (Syndetics)

Syndetics book coverThe Buddha pill : can meditation actually change you?
“In this new book, psychologists Dr. Miguel Farias and Catherine Wikholm explore the human ambition for personal change and its possible illusions, with a focus on yoga and meditation. They examine the psychological and biological evidence, from early research on Transcendental Meditation to recent brain-imaging studies on mindfulness. Controversially, The Buddha Pill argues that personal change effected by these spiritual practices can vary widely from one individual to another, and that peace and compassion may not always be the end result. Combining insights from decades of scientific research with fascinating accounts from gurus and prisoners, The Buddha Pill weaves together a unique story about the science and the delusions of personal change.” (Adapted from Syndetics)

Syndetics book coverThe happiness trap : how to stop struggling and start living
“Russ Harris explains that the way most of us go about trying to find happiness ends up making us miserable, driving the epidemics of stress, anxiety, and depression. This empowering book presents the insights and techniques of ACT (Acceptance and Commitment Therapy) a revolutionary new psychotherapy based on cutting-edge research in behavioral psychology. By clarifying your values and developing mindfulness (a technique for living fully in the present moment), ACT helps you escape the happiness trap and find true satisfaction in life.” (Adapted from Syndetics)

Syndetics book coverUpside : the new science of post-traumatic growth
“PTSD, or Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, is at the center of national conversation and a widely recognized psychological condition. But an equally valid, though lesser known outcome of trauma is post-traumatic growth. While many survivors suffer long-term emotional damage, over the last several decades psychologists have discovered that with the right circumstances and proper support, survivors can actually emerge from their trauma stronger, more focused, and with a new and clear vision for the future. Comprised of interviews with leading researchers and dozens of trauma survivors, Rendon paints a vivid and comprehensive portrait of this groundbreaking field.” (Syndetics)

Syndetics book coverWhole body intelligence : get out of your head and into your body to achieve greater wisdom, confidence, and success
“Executive coach Steve Sisgold, knows that the body–not the mind–is the most reliable and effective pathway to realizing your innermost desires and achieving success. His unique, body-centric approach will show you how to get out of your head and take charge of every area of your life with increased awareness, clarity, and confidence. Whole Body Intelligence teaches you how to become aware of subtle body sensations–such as gripping the phone or clenching your jaw during a tense conversation–and how to interpret their meanings, linking them to negative thoughts and behaviors that are impeding your success and happiness.” (Syndetics)

Syndetics book coverThe story of psychology
“Following the successful pattern of The Story of Maths, The Story of Physics , and The Story of Philosophy, The Story of Psychology traces the development of psychology from its origins as a branch of philosophy to the present day, when it is a discipline in its own right, closely allied with neurology and physiology. Topics include the study of the soul; how the mind was perceived in the ancient world; the ghost in the machine; consciousness, semiconsciousness, and altered consciousness; models of madness; ways of dealing with mental illness; how we learn and know.” (Syndetics)

Syndetics book coverThe superhuman mind : free the genius in your brain
“Berit Brogaard, PhD, and Kristian Marlow, MA, study people with astonishing talents–memory champions, human echolocators, musical virtuosos, math geniuses, and synesthetes who taste colors and hear faces. But as amazing as these abilities are, they are not mysterious. Our brains constantly process a huge amount of information below our awareness, and what these gifted individuals have in common is that through practice, injury, an innate brain disorder, or even more unusual circumstances, they have managed to gain a degree of conscious access to this potent processing power. Delving into the neurological underpinnings of these abilities, the authors even reveal how we can acquire some of them ourselves–from perfect pitch and lightning fast math skills to supercharged creativity.” (Syndetics)

Syndetics book coverMindware : tools for smart thinking
“Scientific and philosophical concepts can change the way we solve problems by helping us to think more effectively about our behavior and our world. Surprisingly, despite their utility, many of these tools remain unknown to most of us. In Mindware, psychologist Richard E. Nisbett presents these ideas in clear and accessible detail. In this groundbreaking book, Nisbett shows us how to frame common problems in such a way that scientific and statistical principles can be applied to them. The result is an enlightening and practical guide to the most essential tools of reasoning ever developed-tools that can easily be used to make better professional, business, and personal decisions.” (Syndetics)

Syndetics book coverWorrying : a literary and cultural history
“Francis O’Gorman charts the emergence of our contemporary idea of worry in the Victorian era and its establishment, after the First World War, as a feature of modernity. For some writers between the Wars, worry was the “disease of the age.” Worrying examines the everyday kind of worry – the fearful, non-pathological, and usually hidden questioning about uncertain futures. It shows worry to be a natural companion in a world where we try to live by reason and believe we have the right to choose, finding in the worrier a peculiarly contemporary sufferer whose mental life is not only exceptionally familiar, but also deeply strange. ” (Syndetics)

Syndetics book coverF*ck feelings : one shrink’s practical advice for managing all life’s impossible problems 
“The only self-help book you’ll ever need, from a psychiatrist and his comedy writer daughter, who will help you put aside your unrealistic wishes, stop trying to change things you can’t change, and do the best with what you can control – the first steps to managing all of life’s impossible problems. Here is the cut-to-the-chase therapy session you’ve been looking for!  In this brilliantly sensible and funny book, a Harvard-educated shrink and his comedy-writing daughter reveal that the real f-words in life are “feelings” and “fairness.”  F*ck Feelings is the last self-help book you will ever need!” (Syndetics)

Understanding & forgiveness – New Self-help books in August

This month’s titles help us explore, recognise and understand our feelings and those of others, for a more harmonious and fulfilled life.  Parents learn to focus on their children’s strength and nurture their emotional health and confidence for a happier childhood and ultimately adulthood.

Syndetics book coverIf you feel too much : thoughts on things found and lost and hoped for
“In 2006 Jamie Tworkowski wrote a story called “To Write Love on Her Arms” about helping a friend through her struggle with drug addiction, depression, and self-injury. The piece was so hauntingly beautiful that it quickly went viral, giving birth to a non-profit organization of the same name. Nine years later, To Write Love on Her Arms (TWLOHA) is an internationally-recognized leader in suicide prevention and a source of hope, encouragement, and resources for people worldwide. If You Feel Too Much is a celebration of hope, wonder, and what it means to be human. From personal stories of struggling on days most people celebrate to offering words of strength and encouragement in moments of loss, the essays in this book invite readers to believe that it’s okay to admit to pain and it’s okay to ask for help.” (Syndetics summary)

Syndetics book coverThe tell : the little clues that reveal big truths about who we are
“In The Tell, psychologist Matthew Hertenstein reveals that our intuition is surprisingly good at using small clues to make big predictions, and shows how we can make better decisions by homing in on the right details. Just as expert poker players use their opponents’ tells to see through their bluffs, Hertenstein shows that we can likewise train ourselves to read physical cues to significantly increase our predictive acumen. By looking for certain clues, we can accurately call everything from election results to the likelihood of marital success, IQ scores to sexual orientation. Moreover, by understanding how people read our body language, we can adjust our own behavior so as to ace our next job interview or tip the dating scales in our favor.” (Syndetics summary)

Syndetics book coverWhat’s your story? : true experiences from complete strangers
“In 2009, Brandon Doman, who has always been curious about the people with whom we share our world, sat at a local coffeehouse and decided to ask passersby a simple question: “What’s your story?” Providing only paper and pens, Doman created an exploratory space that instantly intrigued people to share their stories anonymously. Now, more than 10,000 stories later, the Strangers Project has become a momentous movement, engaging strangers of all ages and backgrounds to reflect, rejoice, heal, and connect through words. Published here for the first time, What’s Your Story? showcases a selection of two hundred stories from the Strangers Project.” (Syndetics summary)

Syndetics book coverAnger management for dummies
“Anger is a completely normal, healthy human emotion. But when it gets out of control and turns destructive, it can lead to problems at work, in personal relationships, and in the overall quality of life. Anger Management For Dummies provides trusted and authoritative information on anger management methods, skills, and exercises that will help you or a loved one identify sources of anger and release them healthily. With the tools, tips, and strategies provided in this hands-on guide, you’ll find everything you need to overcome anger and live a happier, more productive life.” (adapted from amazon.com)

Syndetics book coverI am smart : a guide to recognizing and developing your child’s natural strengths
A leading educator and psychologist, Dr. Markova noticed in her decades of work that parents tend to focus on correcting their children’s weaknesses. But in this groundbreaking book based on the world-renowned SmartWired program, Dawna demonstrates a more effective strategy that centers on building a child’s strengths. This approach not only helps children discover their passion and purpose in life but also instills in them a strong sense of self-worth — which in turn makes them highly motivated to learn. This book helps recognize and utilize all the ways a child is naturally brilliant.” (adapted from amazon.com)

Syndetics book coverRaising happiness : 10 simple steps for more joyful kids and happier parents
“Drawing on what hard science says about the factors that breed happiness in childhood and beyond, here are 10 simple principles for fostering the skills and habits that will set the stage for optimism, emotional health, and confidence for kids. Drawing on what psychology, sociology, and neuroscience have proven about confidence, gratefulness, and optimism, and using her own chaotic and often hilarious real-world adventures as a mom to demonstrate do’s and don’ts in action, Carter covers the day-to-day pressure points of parenting—how best to discipline, get kids to school and activities on time, and get dinner on the table—as well as the more elusive issues of helping children build healthy friendships and develop emotional intelligence.” (adapted from amazon.com)

Syndetics book coverMindfulness & the journey of bereavement : restoring hope after a death
“The emotional responses to death are unpredictable and individual, with denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance all natural stages of the grief cycle. Mindfulness & The Journey of Bereavement explores the universal, life-changing journey of grief and offers insight into how we can understand our feelings, nourish our needs, and face the future positively, with hope. Bereavement volunteer Peter Bridgewater shares therapeutic tools into how the practice of mindfulness can develop a conscious awareness of life and death. With frank personal and professional anecdotes, he helps us to navigate the trauma of loss with clarity and wisdom.” (from amazon.com)

Syndetics book coverThe forgiveness project : stories for a vengeful age
The Forgiveness Project grew out of a conviction that people’s perspectives only shift when they are able to hear the stories of others. In ten years it has become a high impact and influential charity that has wide application and a universal draw on people. Using real stories of victims and perpetrators, the charity sets out to explore concepts of forgiveness and conflict resolution in order to humanise the ‘other’, foster resilient relationships and help to dissolve tension.” (Syndetics)

Syndetics book coverReconnecting with the heart : making sense of our feelings
Reconnecting with the Heart offers a new theoretical and practical approach to understanding and managing feelings. We categorise feelings as either negative or positive, which means that we censor the expression of some while insisting on others. Learning to understand the whole range of emotions helps us learn when and how to communicate them effectively. Feelings are not only mental events, but occur in our bodies as well. Once we stop blaming others, we can learn how to communicate clearly, even in the most difficult situations. Specific suggestions and exercises enable the reader to use this as a workbook for individual and personal exploration.” (Syndetics summary)

Syndetics book coverRethinking narcissism : the bad– and surprising good– about feeling special
“Narcissism, argues Dr. Malkin, is essentially a spectrum of self-importance–and everyone falls somewhere on the scale between utter selflessness and total arrogance. When we casually invoke the term “narcissist,” most of us are referring to the outer edge of the spectrum, which can shade into dangerous psychopathy. But there are also those who live at the lower end of the spectrum–dubbed “echoists”. Dr. Malkin uses vivid stories of people from all walks of life to teach concrete strategies for spotting–and coping with–excessive narcissism. He explains why embracing some degree of narcissism is essential to maintaining a healthy sense of self-worth. The Narcissism Test not only guides readers through the process of measuring their narcissism, but also offers step-by-step advice to prevent unhealthy narcissism and to nurture healthy narcissism.” (adapted from Syndetics)

Syndetics book coverOn emotional intelligence.
“In his defining work on emotional intelligence, bestselling author Daniel Goleman found that it is twice as important as other competencies in determining outstanding leadership. If you read nothing else on emotional intelligence, read these 10 articles by experts in the field. We’ve combed through hundreds of articles in the Harvard Business Review archive and selected the most important ones to help you boost your emotional skills–and your professional success.”  (Syndetics summary)

Finding balance, calm and understanding in a hectic world – New Self-help books in July

This month’s selection delves into the workings of co-dependent relationships and offers tools to free yourself from them, cultivating intimacy, yet separateness, creativity and inner peace.
We also examine the role of death in life and the devastating effect of twin bereavement and loss and how to deal with it.

Syndetics book coverHow to predict the unpredictable : the art of outsmarting almost everyone
“We are hard-wired to believe that the world is more predictable than it is. We chase ‘winning streaks’ that are often just illusions, and we are all too predictable exactly when we try hardest not to be. In the 1970s, Daniel Kahneman and Amos Tversky coined the phrase ‘representativeness’ to describe the psychology of this behaviour. Poundstone makes these techniques fun, easy, and profitable for everyone, in the everyday situations that matter. You’ll learn how to tackle multiple choice tests, what internet passwords to avoid, how to up your odds of winning the office Premier League sweepstakes, and the best ways to invest your money.” (Syndetics)

Syndetics book coverThe joy of missing out : finding balance in a wired world
“Over the past few decades, the world has embraced “progress” and we’re living with the resultant clicking, beeping, anxiety-inducing frenzy. But a creative backlash is gathering steam, helping us cope with the avalanche of data that threatens to overwhelm us daily through our computers, tablets and smartphones. The Joy of Missing Out considers the technologically focused life, with its impacts on our children, relationships, communities, health, work and more, and suggests opportunities for those of us longing to cultivate a richer on- and off-line existence. This book is a must-read for anyone wishing to rediscover quietness of mind, and seeking a sense of peace amidst the cacophony of the modern world.” (Syndetics)

Syndetics book coverCalm : calm the mind, change the world
“Join the Calm revolution. Modern life is hectic and relentless. There has never been a more important time to rediscover your pause button. Calm is the book that will show you how to take back a little bit of peace, space and all-important calm. It is a practical and pleasurable guide to twenty-first century mindfulness. Regular meditation is medically proven to be good for you.  Calm is about simple, achievable habits that work with the demands of your busy life instead of pretending those demands don’t exist. Calm does not require specialist training: it uses abilities that every single one of us is born with, like creativity, spontaneity and simply noticing the world around you. Calm demystifies mindfulness and shows you the many simple ways to be mindful while carrying on with your life.” (Syndetics)

Syndetics book coverThe upside of stress : why stress is good for you, and how to get good at it
“The author of The Willpower Instinct delivers a controversial and groundbreaking new book that overturns long-held beliefs about stress. More than forty-four percent of Americans admit to losing sleep over stress. And while most of us do everything we can to reduce it, Stanford psychologist and bestselling author Kelly McGonigal, Ph.D., delivers a startling message: Stress isn’t bad. In The Upside of Stress, McGonigal highlights new research indicating that stress can, in fact, make us stronger, smarter, and happier–if we learn how to embrace it. McGonigal combines science, stories, and exercises into an engaging and practical book that is both entertaining and life-changing. McGonigal’s TED talk on the subject has already received more than 7 million views.” (Syndetics)

Syndetics book coverNo one understands you and what to do about it
“Have you ever felt you’re not getting through to the person you’re talking to, or not coming across the way you intend? You’re not alone. That’s the bad news. But there is something we can do about it. Heidi Grant Halvorson, social psychologist and bestselling author, explains why we’re often misunderstood and how we can fix that. Most of us assume that other people see us as we see ourselves, and that they see us as we truly are.  You can learn to clarify the message you’re sending once you understand the lenses that shape perception. Once you understand the science of perception, you’ll communicate more clearly, send the messages you intend to send, and improve your personal relationships.” (Syndetics)

Syndetics book coverThe worm at the core : on the role of death in life
“Drawing from innovative experiments conducted around the globe, Solomon, Greenberg, and Pyszczynski show conclusively that the fear of death and the desire to transcend it inspire us to buy expensive cars, crave fame, put our health at risk, and disguise our animal nature. The fear of death can also prompt judges to dole out harsher punishments, make children react negatively to people different from themselves, and inflame intolerance and violence. But The Worm at the Core  offers a compelling new paradigm for understanding the choices we make in life–and a pathway toward divesting ourselves of the cultural and personal illusions that keep us from accepting the end that awaits us all.” (Syndetics)

Syndetics book coverInvisible chains : overcoming coercive control in your intimate relationship
“When a man showers all of his attention on a woman, it can feel incredibly romantic, and can blind her to hints of a darker side. But what happens when that attentiveness starts to feel like domination? For certain men, the desire to control leads to jealousy, possessiveness, micromanaging–even physical violence. Understanding what this destructive pattern looks like and why it occurs is the first step toward repairing or ending a relationship that has become toxic. Readers get vital tools for determining if they are in danger and if their partner can change and for getting their freedom back.” (Syndetics summary)

Syndetics book coverLessons of lifelong intimacy : building a stronger marriage without losing yourself–the 9 principles of a balanced and happy relationship
“Michael Gurian offers a groundbreaking plan for couples seeking to build a healthy relationship, work through past hurts, and create greater intimacy. Recent university studies show that the most frequent reason relationships dissolve is not abuse, alcoholism, money, or even infidelity, but rather a lack of emotional fulfillment. Most books on love and marriage focus on teaching communication and conflict skills, but neglect to help couples with the “other half” of intimacy–separateness. In this practical yet personal guide to love, Gurian details the benefits of creating a lifelong balance of closeness and separateness. Rich with examples and case studies, this book presents strategies for communication and conflict that build more emotional balance, while showing how intimate separateness can be the key to lifelong happiness.”(Syndetics)

Syndetics book coverRainbow way : cultivating creativity in the midst of motherhood
“Visioned as the guide and mentor that most creative women yearn for, but never find in their daily lives, The Rainbow Way explores the depths of the creative urge, from psychological, biological, spiritual and cultural perspectives. This positive, nurturing and practical book will help to empower you to unlock your creative potential within the constraints of your demanding life as a mother.”(Syndetics)

Syndetics book coverThe lone twin : understanding twin bereavement and loss
“People are fascinated with twins – intrigued by their closeness with each other. But what happens when twins are separated, especially by death? Twin mortality is high, but it is not uncommon for a lone twin’s loss, at any age, to go unmarked. They need extra help and support to take them through the loss of their ‘other half.’ Working as an Attachment therapist, Joan Woodward uses John Bowlby’s theories as her conceptual base for her research. In this book, she suggests that the highly significant attachment that twins make with each other may begin, for many, before birth. This is an important and rare book for many professionals – counselors, psychotherapists, social workers, psychologists, and teachers – who come into contact with bereaved twins and yet have little understanding of the dynamics of twinship and of twin loss.” (Syndetics)

Rejection, Fear & Anger – How to turn negatives into positives – June Self-Help

In this month’s selection, we discover insight from scientists, researchers but also real-life accounts showing us how we can truly maximize our potential. With an appreciation of our entire psychological toolkit, we enable ourselves to climb the highest mountains and handle the deepest valleys.

Syndetics book coverRejection proof : how I beat fear and became invincible through 100 days of rejection
“Jia Jiang came to the United States with the dream of being the next Bill Gates. But despite early success in the corporate world, his first attempt to pursue his entrepreneurial dream ended in rejection. He realized he needed to find a way to cope with being told no without letting it destroy him. Thus was born his “100 days of rejection” experiment, during which he willfully sought rejection on a daily basis. Jia learned that even the most preposterous wish may be granted if you ask in the right way, and shares the secret of successful asking, how to pick targets, and how to tell when an initial no can be converted into something positive. Filled with great stories and valuable insight, Rejection Proof is a fun and thoughtful examination of how to overcome fear and dare to live more boldly.” (Syndetics summary)

Syndetics book coverSanctuary : the discovery of wonder
“An engaging and moving book full of spiritual insight, wisdom, and warmth, this book is the result of a decade of exploration and contemplation of the concept of sanctuary. It is written in a way that happily combines reason and imagination, poetry and critical thinking, knowledge and originality. Sanctuary cuts across genres: at once a spiritual memoir; a collection of personal journal entries and brief discourses; and a window into the views of influential writers, thinkers and poets, and of the author’s friends and acquaintances.” (Syndetics summary)

Syndetics book coverResilience : hard-won wisdom for living a better life
“Two years ago, Eric Greitens unexpectedly heard from a former SEAL comrade, a brother-in-arms he hadn’t seen in a decade. Zach Walker had been one of the toughest of the tough. But ever since he returned home from war, he’d been struggling. Without a sense of purpose, plagued by PTSD, and masking his pain with heavy drinking, he needed help. Zach and Eric started writing and talking nearly every day, and Eric set down his thoughts on what it takes to build resilience in our lives. Eric’s letters–drawing on both his own experience and wisdom from ancient and modern thinkers–are now gathered and edited into a timeless handbook. They explain how we can build purpose, confront the pain in our lives, practice compassion, develop our vocations, find a mentor, create happiness, follow a role model, think about the story of our lives, and much more.” (Syndetics summary)

fear cureThe fear cure : cultivating courage as medicine for the body, mind, and soul
“Not many people in the medical world are talking about how being afraid can make us sick-but the truth is that fear, left untreated, becomes a serious risk factor for conditions from heart disease to diabetes to cancer. Now Lissa Rankin, M.D., explains why we need to heal ourselves from the fear that puts our health at risk and robs our lives of joy-and shows us how fear can ultimately cure us by opening our eyes to all that needs healing in our lives. Drawing on peer-reviewed studies and powerful true stories, The Fear Cure presents a breakthrough understanding of fear’s effects and charts a path back to wellness and wholeness on every level. Using exercises from a wide range of mind-body practices and spiritual traditions, Dr. Rankin teaches us how to map out our own courage-cultivating journey, write personalized Prescription for Courage, and step into a more authentic life.” (Syndetics summary)

Syndetics book coverA curious mind : the secret to a bigger life
“For decades, film and TV producer Brian Grazer has scheduled a weekly “curiosity conversation” with an accomplished stranger. From scientists to spies, and adventurers to business leaders, Grazer has met with anyone willing to answer his questions for a few hours. These informal discussions sparked the creative inspiration behind many of Grazer’s movies and TV shows, including Splash , 24 , A Beautiful Mind , Apollo 13 , Arrested Development , 8 Mile , J. Edgar , Empire , and many others. A Curious Mind is a brilliantly entertaining, fascinating, and inspiring homage to the power of inquisitiveness and the ways in which it deepens and improves us.” (Syndetics summary)

Syndetics book coverIncognito : the secret lives of the brain
” In this sparkling and provocative new book, the renowned neuroscientist David Eagleman navigates the depths of the subconscious brain to illuminate surprising mysteries. Taking in brain damage, plane spotting, dating, drugs, beauty, infidelity, synesthesia, criminal law, artificial intelligence, and visual illusions, Incognito is a thrilling subsurface exploration of the mind and all its contradictions.” (Syndetics summary)

Syndetics book coverThe secret letters of the monk who sold his Ferrari
” Jonathan Landry is a man in trouble. After a bizarre encounter with his lost relative Julian Mantle–a former high-powered courtroom lawyer who suddenly vanished into the Himalayas–Jonathan is compelled to travel across the planet to collect the life-saving letters that carry the extraordinary secrets that Julian discovered. The remarkable journey of The Secret Letters of the Monk Who Sold His Ferrari reveals astounding insights on reclaiming your personal power, being true to yourself and fearlessly living your dreams.” (Syndetics summary)

Syndetics book coverI want to be calm : how to de-stress
“With the stress and strains of modern life, it is increasingly difficult to be the peaceful and serene spirit that we all wish to be. In I Want to Be Calm, Harriet Griffey explores the issues we may face in our day-to-day lives that make us feel stressed, anxious, depressed or overwhelmed, and shares practical advice on how to overcome them. Covering topics such as the worry cycle, managing emotions and mindful meditation, Harriet shows how to implement easy but effective approaches to find calm. She looks at how we can practice mindfulness at home and work, how to pursue better relationships and making mindful decisions like choosing peace and living in the moment, plus more.” (Syndetics summary)

Syndetics book coverGirl in the dark
“Anna Lyndsey was living a normal life. She enjoyed her job, she was ambitious, she was falling in love. Then the unthinkable happened. It began with a burning sensation on her face when she was exposed to computer screens and fluorescent lighting. Then the burning spread and the problematic light sources proliferated. Now her extreme sensitivity to light in all forms means she must spend much of her life in total darkness. During the best times, she can venture cautiously outside at dusk and dawn, avoiding high-strength streetlamps. During the worst, she must spend months in a darkened room, listening to audiobooks, inventing word-games and fighting to keep despair at bay. Told with great beauty, humour and honesty, Girl in the Dark is the astonishing and uplifting account of Anna’s descent into the depths of her extraordinary illness.” (Syndetics summary)

Syndetics book coverLife loves you : 7 spiritual practices to heal your life.
“The authors of Life Loves You look at what “Life loves YOU” really means–that life doesn’t happen to you, it happens for you. But the authors don’t expect readers to take their word for it. In fact, they outline seven practical and straightforward experiments that will help readers experience the loving universe for themselves. These experiments include: Looking in the Mirror, Affirming Your Life, Following Your Joy, Forgiving the Past, Being Grateful Now, Learning to Receive, Healing the Future.” (Syndetics)

Syndetics book coverThe upside of your dark side : why being your whole self–not just your “good” self–drives success and fulfillment
“In The Upside of Your Dark Side, two pioneering researchers in the field of psychology show that while mindfulness, kindness, and positivity can take us far, they cannot take us all the way. Sometimes, they can even hold us back. Emotions such as anger, anxiety, guilt, and sadness might feel uncomfortable, but it turns out that they are also incredibly useful. In the same vein, we can become wiser and more effective when we harness the darker parts of our personality in certain situations. The key lies in what the authors call “emotional, social, and mental agility,” the ability to access our full range of emotions and behavior-not just the “good” ones-in order to respond most effectively to whatever situation we might encounter. The Upside of Your Dark Side is a refreshing reality check that shows us how we can truly maximize our potential.” (Syndetics)

The secret is to put it into practice : Self Help picks for May

Every month when we see all these amazing titles we may be tempted to think, “Wow, if only I could read all these books, my life would be so much better!”. But the task seems impossible and we give up before we start. What if instead, we chose only one of these books, every month, but actually took on one of the messages and actively put it into practice? This would actually change our lives, incrementally, for the better.

Syndetics book coverHappiness : a philosopher’s guide “A best seller in Europe, Lenoir’s book is an eminently readable and fantastic treatise on happiness. Drawing from subjects as diverse as psychology, sociology, history, biology, and neuroscience, Lenoir, a professor at France’s L’École des Hautes Études en Sciences Sociales, constructs an intriguing philosophical dialog about what happiness is and whether it is possible to be happy. The author weaves in and out among sources from both Western philosophical and religious traditions and Eastern religions, in order to focus on the subject and not on the philosopher or scientist. He doesn’t present a definitive conclusion; rather, like most philosophers the questions he raises are answered to a degree that can be applied generally, leaving readers to discover their own solutions. Yet the author does provide an overview of six philosophies (Stoicism, Buddhism, Taoism, Michel de Montaigne’s philosophy, Hinduism, and Spinozism) to exemplify ways to counteract the pessimistic modernist take on the possibility of the attainment of happiness (and therefore, wisdom) in contemporary society.” (Syndetics)

Syndetics book coverThe world beyond your head : on becoming an individual in an age of distraction “IN this book, the author takes a unique look at attention, positing that it is a commodity. He sets out to establish that in a world of increasingly pervasive distractions, individualism can only be attained through focus. Crawford uses examples of skilled labor and craftsmanship to explain how people can gain back some of their lost autonomy (a word he works over quite thoroughly) through concentration. He explains his theories well, with strong writing and citations, and the resulting argument is fresh and extremely enlightening. What is most satisfying is that technology is not blamed for the modern deluge of distractions-it is discussed as the cumulative effect of a number of influences found within Western culture. ” (Sundetics)

Syndetics book coverBetter than before : mastering the habits of our everyday lives “Bestseller Rubin (The Happiness Project) returns with this fun and informative self-help tome on the ways we unthinkingly shape our lives with habits. As she shows, habits affect our lives in both positive and negative ways. By acquiring positive habits and eliminating negative ones, we can increase our overall happiness. “How we schedule our days is how we spend our lives,” Rubin asserts. The subtitle calls to mind Julia Child’s cookbook Mastering the Art of French Cooking, suggesting a goal similar to Child’s: to collect all the available information on the subject and break it down into components for readers to apply to their own lives. Writing that “we can build our habits only on the foundation of our own nature,” Rubin goes on to identify four tendencies, or personality types, in relation to habit-formation: upholder, questioner, obliger, and rebel.” (Syndetics)

realReal : living a balanced life   This visually stunning, thought-provoking book is about looking around with awareness, noticing life’s quiet details and knowing that the honesty of time changes everything – from a human face, a family home, or a fragile sampler book of antique lace. Real is about the agelessness of integrity; appreciating the imperfect; beauty and our involvement in creating it; acceptance; ancient crafts and craftsmanship; and letting everything age with grace. Illustrated with photographs taken by the author in 27 countries, Real affirms that we are more alike than we sometimes admit – we all have a desire for warmth and love – and that there is dignity in simple things.” (Syndetics)

Syndetics book coverCaptivology : the science of capturing people’s attention
“The former editor of Mashable and cofounder of DominateFund examines the psychological phenomena that captivate our attention–and how we can leverage them to draw and retain attention for our ideas, work, companies, and more. Whether you’re an artist or a salesperson, a teacher or an engineer, a marketer or a parent, putting the spotlight on your ideas, insights, projects and products requires a deep understanding of the science of attention. Ben Parr explains how and why the mind pays attention to some events or people–and not others–and presents seven captivation triggers–techniques guaranteed to help you capture and retain the attention of friends, colleagues, customers, fans, and even strangers.Parr combines the latest research on attention with interviews with more than fifty scientists and visionaries–Facebook’s Sheryl Sandberg, film director Steven Soderbergh, LinkedIn CEO Jeff Weiner, magician Jon Armstrong, New York Times bestselling author Susan Cain, Nintendo’s Shigeru Miyamoto, founder of Reddit Alexis Ohanian, and more–who have successfully brought their ideas, projects, companies, and products to the forefront of cultural consciousness. The result is an insightful and practical book that will change how you assign jobs to your kids or staff, craft a multi-million dollar ad campaign, deliver your next presentation, attract users to your product, or convince the world to support your cause”. (Syndetics)

Syndetics book coverThe art of creative thinking
“THE ART OF CREATIVE THINKING reveals how we can transform our businesses, our society and ourselves through a deeper understanding of human creativity. Rod Judkins, a lecturer in creativity at the world-famous St Martin’s College of Art, will examine the behaviour of successful creative thinkers and explain how all of us can learn from them to improve our lives. Judkins will draw on an extraordinary range of reference points, from the Dada Manifesto to Andy Warhol’s studio, via Steve Jobs, Nobel Prize winning economists and many others, and distil a lifetime’s expertise into 90 succinct chapters. Along the way he shares the story of most successful class in educational history (in which every single student won a Nobel prize); shows why graphic nudity during public speaking can be both a curse and surprisingly persuasive; and reveals why, in the twenty-first century, it’s technically illegal to be as good as good as Michelangelo.” (Syndetics)

Syndetics book coverImprove your memory every day
“Memory is like a muscle: you either use it or lose it. Consider this definitive guide a personal trainer for the brain, one with a huge assortment of entertaining and fast-acting memory-strengthening techniques. Use them to draw upon daily, when trying to find lost keys, recall anniversaries, or study for exams. Test your sharpness with fun instant assessments. Try intriguing short- and long-term memory tasks, such as remembering a series of long words and recalling landmarks on a map. Follow a monthlong plan of “do it in a day” exercises. In addition to invaluable “Tips and Tricks” boxes, there’s advice on boosting concentration, using mnemonics, and other forms of mental association.” (Syndetics)

Syndetics book coverHighly intuitive people : 7 right-brain traits to change the lives of intuitive-sensitive people
“Do you struggle with small talk and prefer deep conversation? Are you extremely sensitive to other people’s moods? Do people describe you as highly perceptive? Are you exhausted after being in busy places? If you’ve answered ‘yes’ to any of the above questions, you may be a Highly Intuitive Person: someone who is especially sensitive to the energy of others. Highly Intuitive People, also known as Intuitive-Sensitives, are a refined group of sensitive people who are said to make up 15-20 per cent of the population. They experience their world through the deeper senses, generally have a calm persona, care deeply for other people, are very perceptive and are often described as extremely wise and ‘knowing’. This book will help you to understand your talents and how to unleash them in an empowering way for deep self-development. The techniques in this book have already helped thousands of Intuitive-Sensitives to discover and develop their incredible gifts. This is a must-read for those who are driven to understand the deeper meaning and purpose of their life.” (Syndetics)

Syndetics book coverHow to be creative : rediscover your inner creativity and live the life you truly want
For many of us, creativity is something that belongs to other people actors, writers, musicians, artists it is not something we would describe ourselves as having. However, creativity is innate in everyone and a key part of our personality. As children, we are in touch with our natural creativity. We learn by engaging all of our senses and we know the value of curiosity and fun. As we get older this creative and intuitive self is stifled and locked away as we become burdened with responsibilities at work and home. In ‘How to Be Creative’ Liz Dean shows you simple ways to bring creativity back into your life. She starts by looking at the biggest obstacle to creativity: making time. Liz shows you how spending just ten minutes a day on a creative project is enough time to spark new ideas and tap into your creative power.” (Syndetics)

Syndetics book coverSo you’ve been publicly shamed
“For the past three years, Jon Ronson has been immersing himself in the world of modern-day public shaming–meeting famous shamees, shamers, and bystanders who have been impacted. This is the perfect time for a modern-day Scarlet Letter–a radically empathetic book about public shaming, and about shaming as a form of social control. It has become such a big part of our lives it has begun to feel weird and empty when there isn’t anyone to be furious about. Whole careers are being ruined by one mistake. A transgression is revealed. Our collective outrage at it has the force of a hurricane. Then we all quickly forget about it and move on to the next one, and it doesn’t cross our minds to wonder if the shamed person is okay or in ruins. What’s it doing to them? What’s it doing to us?” (Syndetics)

Mindfulness, grief and self-love – New Self-Help books in April

Lessons from this month’s selection include:

How to find your true self behind the performance of relationships,
How to integrate mindfulness in your life, at work and at home,
How to be more tolerant and accepting of yourself,
How to deal with grief when your parents pass away.

Syndetics book coverScary close : dropping the act and finding true intimacy
“In a conversational tone, Miller discloses thoughts about intimacy and how to find it: taking off the masks worn to hide the true self. The personality we show to the world often is that of a performer, created to hide who we are while trying to win approval and get attention, he says. Miller’s contemplations come as the result of courting his wife, Betsy, who changed his thinking when it came to relationships with women. Short chapters tackle topics that range from personal memories and experiences to practical advice about factors that affect people as they develop relationships.” (Syndetics)

Syndetics book cover Mindful work : how meditation is changing business from the inside out 
“Big business often seems the reserve of ruthless money-grubbers desperately looking for a way to make their next buck. But a quiet revolution is reshaping the corporate world, as the world’s most dynamic entrepreneurs and businesspeople are starting to change how a successful business is run. A new breed of mindful managers are using meditation, yoga and other Zen techniques to focus on feeling good while making money – and using the money to do good too. Materialism is out and mindfulness is in. Featuring insights from high-level managers at Fortune 500 companies through to Google employees and the Dalai Lama himself, Mindful Work is an inspirational guide to mindfulness based in the realities of running a successful business.” (Syndetics summary)

Syndetics book coverThe sweet spot : how to find your groove at home and work 
“In The Sweet Spot, Carter shares what she calls “the sweet spot equation,” a combination of strategies and practices for attaining happiness without giving up success, and for achieving success without compromising happiness. Using a simple formula, The Sweet Spot shows us how to take a brief recess, an inoculation against “The Overwhelm” and the key to converting stress into productive and creative energy institute daily micro-habits that free you up to focus on and enjoy more important things unplug from seemingly time-saving gadgets that can sap our strength, and use technology more strategically prioritize our relationships, making use of the hard science that points out how healthy connections help us thrive.” (Syndetics)

Syndetics book coverTame your inner critic : find peace & contentment to live your life on purpose
“This book takes you on a journey of self-discovery, exploring the energy of your thoughts and turning the negative into positive. Discover how to use your innate intuitive abilities to heal these energies and discard judgments and criticisms that have built up over the years. Find your true north – your own internal wisdom that is connected to the divine and gives you guidance. With specialised exercises and meditations, this book shows you how to banish negativity, improve your relationships and realise new ways to share your gifts with the world around you.” (Book cover)

Syndetics book coverI [heart] me : the science of self-love
“In this transformational book bestselling author David Hamilton fuses science with self-help to offer simple yet powerful strategies for learning to love yourself. Throughout I Heart Me, you will learn that loving yourself means more than feeling good about yourself or being kind to yourself – it’s about being self-confident, being able to express yourself without fear, being unconcerned about whether you’re liked, and living your own life – not someone else’s idea of what your life should be. With the most up-to-date research and findings on the subject of self-love, this book offers simple ways to achieve significant breakthroughs in your own journey to self-acceptance.” (Syndetics)

Syndetics book coverBeyond willpower : the secret principle to achieving success in life, love, and happiness
“Based on more than twenty-five years of clinical experience, and rooted in science, ancient wisdom and proven therapeutic techniques, this programme will help you remove any personal obstacles so that you can achieve health, wealth, and relationship success beyond your dreams.” (Syndetics)

Syndetics book coverEmpower yourself : daily affirmations to reclaim your power!
Following the overwhelming response to Treasure Yourself, Miranda continues to explore similar themes in her latest title, providing insight on what she believes it means for young, modern women to be empowered in all areas of life and how this can be achieved. For Miranda, one of the most powerful tools to facilitate change, both in her own life, and in the lives of others, is the use of positive affirmations. Here, she has written over 250 personal affirmations that can be used to achieve and maintain a healthy lifestyle, harmonious relationships, fulfilling career and happiness.”(Syndetics)

Syndetics book coverHealing the adult child’s grieving heart : 100 practical ideas after your parent dies
“Offering heartfelt and simple advice, this book provides realistic suggestions and relief for an adult child whose parent has died. Practical advice is presented in a one-topic-per-page format that does not overwhelm with psychological language, but provides small, immediate ways to understand and reconcile grief. The common challenges that face grieving adult children, such as helping the surviving parent, resolving sibling conflicts, and legal and financial issues, are addressed clearly and concisely.” (Syndetics)

Syndetics book coverMidlife orphan : facing life’s changes now that your parents are gone
“The word “orphan” usually calls to mind the image of a child. But even self-sufficient adults can feel the pain of “orphanhood” when their parents are suddenly gone. Complicating the natural mourning process is the fact that this loss often occurs in our thirties, forties, or fifties — as we are raising our own children, watching them leave the nest, and facing other adjustments in our lives, from our jobs to our marriages to our health.” (Syndetics)

Syndetics book coverThe big little book of resilience : how to bounce back from adversity and lead a fulfilling life
“Most of us set out quietly hoping for, and secretly expecting to live a happy, successful and healthy life. But life doesn’t always go to plan.The Big Little Book of Resilience is about developing flexibility, acceptance and self-compassion when those plans go awry. In this beautifully illustrated book, Matthew Johnstone guides the reader to an understanding of how resilience plays a key role in wellbeing. He offers an accessible roadmap to developing and maintaining resilience and how it can help you overcome and learn from difficult life events.” (Syndetics)

February Self help – Overcoming obstacles to achieve success

Success is a very subjective concept and can take many forms. What is success for one person might not be for the next. Is financial wealth a real success if your heart is not content? Can you reach fulfillment without money? What are your goals in life? Professional success, academic or sporting achievement, a happy romantic relationship, having a lot of friends or having only a few very close ones, fighting for a worthy cause? Does change make you anxious or do your thrive for novelty and adventures? Everyone will have a different answer to these questions. Whatever your life’s quest, this month’s selection should give you some useful insight on the way to a content life.

Syndetics book coverThe millionaire mystique : how working women become wealthy– and how you can, too!
“Business psychologist Jude Miller Burke looks at today’s self-made female millionaires and how they successfully manage career and family life. What can struggling women learn from them? Miller Burke backs up her findings using results from a ground breaking study of millionaire women. In this book will you’ll learn: the surprising number of millionaire women who were successful in their careers in spite of difficult, even abusive childhoods; why starting “at the bottom” isn’t a disadvantage and how you can build on your childhood and early career circumstances, whatever they are; what personality factors wealthy working women have in common and how to foster them for yourself; how to develop the two most critical traits for overcoming obstacles to success. Jude Miller Burke is a business psychologist, executive coach, and a millionaire.” (Syndetics)

Syndetics book coverRewire your anxious brain : how to use the neuroscience of fear to end anxiety, panic, & worry
“Do you ever wonder what is happening inside your brain when you feel anxious, panicked, and worried? In Rewire Your Anxious Brain, psychologist Catherine Pittman and author Elizabeth Karle offer a unique, evidence-based solution to overcoming anxiety based in cutting-edge neuroscience and research. In the book, you will learn how the amygdala and cortex (both important parts of the brain) are essential players in the neuropsychology of anxiety. The amygdala acts as a primal response, and oftentimes, when this part of the brain processes fear, you may not even understand why you are afraid. By comparison, the cortex is the centre of “worry.” The author offers specific examples of how to manage fear by tapping into both of these pathways in the brain. As you read, you’ll gain a greater understanding how anxiety is created in the brain, and as a result, you will feel empowered and motivated to overcome it.” (Syndetics)

Syndetics book coverManaging for change : how to make your future brighter, today
“The world around us is constantly changing – and at a faster and faster rate. These changes have an impact on our lives at many different levels. It’s possible that the things we are doing now will not work in the future. So how do we alter our current trajectory? And to where should we set our new course? And if change is inevitable, why not plan for it? And why not go one step further – and actually manage for it? Letting change happen to us is no guarantee of a happy and successful life. Reaching that goal for now and tomorrow means constantly assessing the future and developing skills in predicting and managing the forces of change. Managing for Change is your guide to doing just that.” (Adapted from Syndetics)

Syndetics book coverHow the body knows its mind : the surprising power of the physical environment to influence how you think and feel 
“Though the brain is the organ most commonly associated with thinking, psychologist Beilock (Choke) makes a fairly fresh case about the rest of the body’s contribution to the process. The book begins with the premise that the body’s interaction with its physical surroundings affects cognition, and Beilock goes on to show how the body can be used to manipulate everyday perceptions. She builds her argument with a variety of anecdotes and cultural references. Often these examples flip conventional wisdom to highlight the influence of our body on thought. For example, she connects the correlation between musical ability and IQ to finger dexterity. Beilock offers an unconventional perspective that will stimulate the mind.” (Adapted from Syndetics)

Syndetics book coverYou can be happy : 101 ways to smile
Imagine you have been told that this is the last day of your life and you have twelve hours to live .. ..are you really going to worry about the report you haven’t finished for work, the negative comment you received from a friend a year ago or how you will manage Christmas at your place this year? Probably not! This book will help you to place all life issues into perspective, recognise your strengths, become more assertive and in doing so increase significantly your happiness level for the rest of your life. This book provides useful strategies for you to focus on breaking through the roadblocks to smile and step back onto the happiness path. Smiling is contagious. People around you will be smiling too.” (Adapted from Syndetics)

Syndetics book coverImproving your memory : how to remember what you’re starting to forget
This book provides readers with tools for understanding and improving memory, including sixteen helpful exercises. Simple techniques like writing information down, creating a catch word or phrase, altering something in your environment, and reviewing details in advance can put you actively in charge of retrieving information more easily. As in previous editions, Improving Your Memory reinforces memory techniques through real-life examples. This accessible handbook also discusses how memory works; how it changes with age, stress, illness, and depression; and why people remember what they do. Many readers will see immediate improvement in their memory after reading the book.” (Syndetics)

Syndetics book coverThe energies of love : using energy medicine to keep your relationship thriving
“A relationship begins with the meeting of two unique energies. This union of energies determines the way you communicate, fight, love, and want to be loved. Donna Eden and David Feinstein draw on the real-life experiences of couples who have attended their popular ‘Energies of Love’ workshops, as well as their own experience as husband and wife, to show how an understanding of your energy system and that of your partner can help you build a more harmonious and loving bond. We all have different ways of making sense of the world around us, but when faced with conflict, especially with those we care most about, we tend to revert to one of four ‘Energetic Stress Styles’. The Energies of Love is filled with tools to help you diffuse arguments and energy exercises to increase your overall sense of joy and wellbeing.” (Syndetics)

Syndetics book coverMindfulness : 25 ways to live in the moment through art
“In this internationally best-selling book, French psychiatrist Andre guides the reader through the practice of mindfulness to art itself. Using color photographs of classic and modern works, the author shows readers how to quiet the outer world and intensify their presence in the moment, neither trying to escape it or change it. Andre responds to each art piece in terms of feelings and sensory perceptions, helping readers to visualize themselves inside the canvas, smelling, hearing, and really seeing the scene. A fascinating book!” (Adapted from Syndetics)

Syndetics book coverImagine this : creating the work you love 
“Life coach and poet Clair (Rattlebone) advocates the New Age mission of self-realization with this succinct, easy-to-follow workbook. A survivor of domestic abuse, Clair earned two advanced degrees; after a long career as a medical technologist, she became an English professor at George Washington University and an award-winning writer. Setting the example for how self-realization improved her life, she outlines the journey to empowerment that worked for her in nine steps: for example, the first step toward “pursuing a greater sense of wakefulness” is simply to keep a journal. For those who may be floundering, she advises looking for inspiration in “places that hold your idea of beauty” or simply chilling by watching “wall paper dry”.” (Syndetics)

Syndetics book coverIt’s not about the shark : how to solve unsolvable problems / David Niven, PhD.
“”We limit what we think is possible based on the boundaries the problems set for us,” Niven asserts. “We stare at our problems and cannot see anything else.” Niven uses Steven Spielberg as an example, explaining how the malfunctioning mechanical shark built for Jaws forced the director to suggest, rather than show, his story’s antagonist for most of the movie. According to the book, focusing on a problem can make it harder to find an answer; conversely, looking away from a problem often makes it easier to find a solution. While it’s natural to be scared of failing, particularly when trying new things, Niven advises readers to “fail with joy,” and relish the freedom to explore new alternatives that present themselves with failure. This fresh, enthusiastic approach to problem-solving will encourage readers to open themselves up to opportunity and make for a valuable addition to anyone’s self-help shelf.” (Syndetics)

Syndetics book coverThe motivation manifesto : 9 declarations to claim your personal power
“Burchard reveals that the main motive of humankind is the pursuit of greater Personal Freedom. We desire the grand liberties of choice–time freedom, emotional freedom, social freedom, financial freedom, spiritual freedom. Only two enemies stand in our way: an external enemy, defined as the social oppression of who we are by the mediocre masses, and an internal enemy, a sort of self-oppression caused by our own doubt and fear. The march to Personal Freedom, Burchard argues, can be won only by declaring our intent and independence, stepping into our personal power, and battling through self-doubt and the distractions of the day until full victory is won.” (Syndetics)

 


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