The secret of developing confidence – ‘Self Help’ new books for November

Confidence is not something we either have or don’t have – it can be built with self-belief. Reach your full potential and follow your path to confidence, with various ideas and tips you ‘ll find in the selection of new ‘Self-Help’ books we have chosen for you. Happy reading!

Be calm : proven techniques to stop anxiety now / Weber, Jill P.
“Stop anxiety wherever and whenever it starts. If you suffer from anxiety, you’re not alone – like forty million Americans, you know symptoms can strike anytime, anywhere. Relief is here. Be Calm targets symptoms wherever they strike with cutting-edge techniques that help you reduce anxiety on the spot. This book is both a handy resource for stress management and a close look into the causes of anxiety.” (adapted from Catalogue)

10% happier : how I tamed the voice in my head, reduced stress without losing my edge, and found self-help that actually works : a true story / Harris, Dan
“Nightline anchor Dan Harris embarks on an unexpected, hilarious, and deeply skeptical odyssey through the strange worlds of spirituality and self-help, and discovers a way to get happier that is truly achievable. After having a nationally televised panic attack, Dan Harris knew he had to make some changes. A lifelong nonbeliever, he found himself on a bizarre adventure involving a disgraced pastor, a mysterious self-help guru, and a gaggle of brain scientists. 10% Happier takes readers on a ride from the outer reaches of neuroscience to the inner sanctum of network news to the bizarre fringes of America’s spiritual scene, and leaves them with a takeaway that could actually change their lives.” (adapted from Catalogue)

You’re crushing it : positivity for living your real life / Croucher, Lex
“Sometimes life can be pretty amazing. But other times… No, Instagram filters won’t make it look any better. And, yes, we all feel this way. An honest, thoughtful and hilarious survival guide for young people by social media sensation, Lex Croucher. Learn that you can face whatever today throws at you, because it has terrible aim anyway. And realise that only you scrutinise your flaws – seriously, no one else is paying attention, there’s far too much interesting stuff on Netflix. A must-read for anyone who wants to embrace their actual, real, unedited life.” (adapted from Catalogue)

Mentors : how to help and be helped / Brand, Russell
“Russell Brand explores the idea of mentoring and shares what he’s learned from the guidance of his own helpers, heroes and mentors. Could happiness lie in helping others and being open to accepting help yourself? Mentors – the follow up to Sunday Times number one bestseller, Recovery – describes the benefits of seeking and offering help. It explores how we all – consciously and unconsciously – choose guides, mentors and heroes throughout our lives and examines the new perspectives they can bring.” (adapted from Catalogue)

Overdrive cover Brave New Girl, Chloe Brotheridge (Audiobook)
Penguin presents the audiobook edition of Brave New Girl, written and read by Chloe Brotheridge. Be the most confident version of yourself. How would you act if you didn’t care what people thought? Who would you be, if you knew for sure that you were worthy, loved and accepted? What would you do if you knew failure was just a stepping stone, not a final resting place? Brave New Girl is a straightforward guide to building more self-belief and reducing the need to people-please. Chloe will help you feel more confident, show you how you can reach your full potential, and teach you how to assertively set boundaries for a happier, healthier you. (adapted from Overdrive description)

Taming the black dog / Aisbett, Bev
“First published in 2000, Bev Aisbett’s classic, simple and easy-to-follow guide to overcoming depression Taming the Black Dog has sold over 220,000 copies and helped thousands of people manage their depression. Now expanded and fully revised, this updated edition of Taming the Black Dog features Bev Aisbett’s unique blend of information, humour and clear, simple and practical advice. It is an invaluable guide and source of information for both chronic sufferers of depression as well as anyone with a fit of ‘the blues’. Over 1 in 5 people will suffer some form of depression at some point in their lives, so Taming the Black Dog is a more important resource than ever before.” (adapted from Catalogue)

The baby loss guide : Practical and compassionate support with a day-by-day resource to navigate the path of grief / Clark-Coates, Zoë
“Zoë Clark-Coates and her husband Andy have personally faced the loss of five babies. Out of their experiences came the charity, The Mariposa Trust, which offers support to thousands of grieving parents and relatives around the world each week. In this book Zoë draws on her own experiences and expertise to help you through your darkest days and navigate this complex path.” (Catalogue)

New library books to help you discover yourself

This month’s selection of books will offer you tips and advice on how to get to know yourself and transform your life. Enjoy reading!

Transforming your life through self-care : a guide to tapping into your deep beauty and inner worth / Brent, Carolyn A.
“Stop living in the poor me world and take purposeful action with discipline and determination to practice self-care, no matter what your age. This book shows you how to become your own caregiver by tapping into your deep beauty and inner worth and transforming yourself through exercise, diet, meditation, and getting rid of toxic relationships. This motivational self-help book outlines the necessary self-care actions to achieve success in your new lifestyle and wellness journey.(adapted from Catalogue)

Best self : be you, only better / Bayer, Mike
“Ask yourself…Are you truly Who You Want To Be? Is this the life you really want? What can you change? How would you answer those questions? Think about your daily life. Are you thriving, or going through the motions. Are your days full of work, relationships and activities that are true to your authentic self, or do you feel trapped on a treadmill of responsibility? If you dream of a better life, now is the time to turn your dream into reality.Best Self will show you how  to design a life that is fulfilling on the deepest levels” (adapted from Catalogue)

Wholehearted : slow down, help out, wake up / Ellison, Koshin Paley
“An inspiring book that will help readers rediscover their values and discover a way to truly live life to the fullest. Each of us has an enormous capacity for love–a deep well of attention and care that we can offer to ourselves and others. With guidance that is both simple and wholly transformative, Koshin Paley Ellison, Zen teacher and psychotherapist, shows us how to uncover it: pay attention, be of service, and be with others. With this inspiring book, you’ll learn how to identify the mental habits that could be hurting yourself.” (adapted from Catalogue)

The wisdom of anxiety : how worry and intrusive thoughts are gifts to help you heal / Paul, Sheryl
“For anyone troubled by obsessive thoughts, insomnia, and other manifestations of anxiety, counselor Sheryl Paul offers a shelter in the storm. In The Wisdom of Anxiety, Paul reveals that anxiety, like any emotion, is a signal – a clear bodily invitation to heal and renew your trust in your choices, self-image, and core values. Weaving together practical exercises, Jungian analysis, and lyrical personal stories, Paul offers drug-free approaches to renew your trust in your self.”  (adapted from Catalogue)

The shame factor : heal your deepest fears and set yourself free / Poulter, Stephan B
“A popular clinical psychologist explores an often misunderstood and unrecognized emotion that’s the root cause of many self-defeating and harmful behaviors. Emotional paralysis, a distorted view of self, a feeling of being a fraud, lack of trust in others, fear of criticism resulting in underdeveloped talents, and a chronic sense of being worthless, invisible, or disposable–these are typical symptoms of shame. This is a book full of insight and understanding, one that can help most of us discover and realize our full potentials.” (adapted from Catalogue)

Striving for self-improvement and happiness!

Discover ways to find happiness and achieve your family goals with ideas and tips found in these newly arrived library books. Happy reading!

Listen to me! : taking the conflict out of child discipline / Martin, Anna
“Are you confused by all the different parenting advice on how to discipline your child? Have you been trying a variety of different methods for years that don’t really work or feel uncomfortable to use? Regardless of your situation, you might find it helpful to change the way you think about discipline altogether. Dr Anna Martin has turned traditional methods on their head to come up with effective strategies that put listening and the wellbeing of children before lecturing.” (adapted from Catalogue)

Raising girls in the twenty-first century / Biddulph, Steve
“Steve Biddulph’s Raising Boys was a global phenomenon. The first book in a generation to look at boys’ specific needs, parents loved its clarity and warm insights into their sons’ inner world. But today, things have changed. It’s girls that are in trouble.” (Catalogue)

Maybe you should talk to someone : a therapist, her therapist, and our lives revealed / Gottlieb, Lori
“With starting wisdom and humor, Gottlieb invites us into her world as both clinician and patient, examining the truths and fictions we tell ourselves and others as we teeter on the tightrope between love and desire, meaning and mortality, guilt and redemption, terror and courage, hope and change. This book is revolutionary in its candor, offering a deeply personal yet universal tour of our hearts and minds. It reveals what it means to be human!” (Catalogue)

Girl, stop apologizing : a shame-free plan for embracing and achieving your goals / Hollis, Rachel
Rachel Hollis knows that many women have been taught to define themselves in light of other people–whether as wife, mother, daughter, or employee–instead of learning how to own who they are and what they want. With a challenge to women everywhere to stop talking themselves out of their dreams, Hollis identifies the excuses to let go of, the behaviors to adopt, and the skills to acquire on the path to growth, confidence, and believing in yourself.” (Dust jacket)

The rise of positive psychology

Find out ways to change the limits of your emotional landscape, control your impulses – and can harness the power of your surroundings to live fuller, healthier and truly joyful lives.

Girl, stop apologizing : a shame-free plan for embracing and achieving your goals / Hollis, Rachel
“It’s known that many women have been taught to define themselves in light of other people–whether as wife, mother, daughter, or employee–instead of learning how to own who they are and what they want. With a challenge to women everywhere to stop talking themselves out of their dreams, Hollis identifies the excuses to let go of, the behaviours to adopt, and the skills to acquire on the path to growth, confidence, and believing in yourself.”–Dust jacket. (Catalogue)

Crappy to happy : simple steps to live your best life / Dunn, Cassandra
“Psychologist Cassandra Dunn believes that happiness is available to all of us – and not just in some picture-perfect ideal life. Cass has helped thousands of people get from Crappy to Happy with her hit podcast. In this book Cass expands on those conversations and provides even more information and practical tools, helping you learn to let go, to find your people, to determine your direction and more. Your journey to living your best life begins right here and now.” (Catalogue)

Joyful : the surprising power of ordinary things to create extraordinary happiness / Lee, Ingrid Fetell
“Have you ever wondered why we stop to watch the orange glow that arrives before sunset, or why we flock to see cherry blossoms bloom in spring? Is there a reason that people — regardless of gender, age, culture, or ethnicity — are mesmerized by baby animals, and can’t help but smile when they see a burst of confetti or a cluster of colourful balloons? In Joyful, designer Ingrid Fetell Lee explores how the seemingly mundane spaces and objects we interact with every day have surprising and powerful effects on our mood and, most importantly, she reveals how we can harness the power of our surroundings to live fuller, healthier, and truly joyful lives.” (Catalogue)

Crash test girl : an unlikely experiment in using the scientific method to answer life’s toughest questions / Byron, Kari
“Have questions about your sexuality? Alcohol? Depression? Byron, a former co-host of “MythBusters,” demonstrates how to use the scientific method for solving everyday problems. Question. Hypothesize. Experiment. Analyze. Conclude. So strap in, put on your safety goggles, and learn from the results.” (Catalogue)

The Spartan way : eat better, train better, think better, be better / De Sena, Joe
“Joe De Sena has one ultimate goal: to help improve everyone’s physical and emotional health by teaching them the tenets of Spartan living from ancient Greece: simple eating, smart training, mastering resilience, and an all-out commitment to achieving a goal. Like Spartan training, living The Spartan Way requires endurance to reach your finish line, the goal that inspires and drives you to succeed no matter what obstacles are thrown in your path. De Sena believes you can gain that endurance in just thirty-six days by following the ten Spartan Core Virtues, timeless principles to help you embrace adversity and overcome any challenge, and making them a permanent part of your own personal core.” (Catalogue)

Raising girls in the twenty-first century : helping our girls to grow up wise, strong and free / Biddulph, Steve
“Raising Girls is powerful, practical and positive. Your heart, head and hands will be strengthened by its message. It talks to the world’s leading voices on girls’ needs and makes their ideas clear and simple. Great tips for parents how to deal with the modern world, and ways getting the media off the backs of their daughters.” (Syndetics summary)

The best you: New self-help books

Mastering Adulthood book cover

2019 has seen an abundance of new self-help books come through the door. So many great inspirational reads here to choose from to help you stay on track with those ‘levelling up’ goals for the year. Enjoy!

Best self: be you, only better / Bayer, Mike
“Life coach Mike Bayer has helped all kinds of clients, from pop artists to athletes to top level business executives to families in refugee camps, to ordinary people like you and me. His unparalleled passion for helping people, and a desire to make mental health care as mainstream as going to the gym is what brought him to the attention of Dr. Phil. With this book, Coach Mike’s simple yet powerful tools are ready for the mainstream, so that everyone can live the authentic life they truly desire and deserve.” (Catalogue)

Happy ever after: escaping the myth of the perfect life / Dolan, Paul
“Be ambitious; find everlasting love; look after your health–there are countless stories about how we ought to live our lives. These narratives can make our lives easier, and they might sometimes make us happier too. But they can also trap us and those around us. Here, happiness expert Professor Paul Dolan draws on a wealth of evidence to bust the common myths about our sources of happiness and shows that there can be many unexpected paths to lasting happiness.” (Catalogue)

Lead yourself to success: ordinary people achieving extraordinary results through self-leadership / Chambers, Alan
“This book shows you how to develop the leadership mindset to get wherever you want to go in life, trust your own judgement and come out on top of the world. Uncover your inner leadership potential. Find the adventure in everyday life. Alan helps thousands of people every year unlock the door to higher performance. Every single one of those people was a leader waiting to happen, even if they didn’t know it – but once they truly realised where their potential could take them, they became unstoppable.” (Catalogue)

Kidding: childlike solutions to bullsh*t adult problems / Williams, Laura
“Consider this your permission slip to relax, laugh, and finally find happiness. At once hilarious, irreverent, and downright inspiring, Kidding shows you how to connect with your inner child to make your mundane, complicated adult life much simpler (and happier). It’s a book about using your imagination and creativity to find joy, and about being happier by being who you are-which is to say, by being a big kid at heart. Kids do whatever the f*ck they want, precisely because they want to. To put it simply, kids have the answers, man.” (Adapted from Catalogue)

Mastering adulthood: go beyond adulting to become an emotional grown-up / Fielding, Lara E.
“Whoever said being a grownup was easy? For millennials up to the challenge, Mastering Adulthood offers smart and entertaining strategies for dealing with difficult emotions while facing the new realities of adulthood–such as graduating from college, starting a career, gaining financial independence, and creating meaningful relationships. More than just “adulting”–this book gives readers the emotional skills they need to thrive!” (Catalogue)

Already brilliant: play to your strengths in work and life / Bridge, Rachel
“Packed with practical tips, ideas and interviews with successful people in all walks of life, and supported by academic research, Already Brilliant will show you how to find a way of working that suits you best, how to begin developing good habits and how to overcome any obstacles standing in your way. And even better, how to turn those obstacles into advantages that will help rather than hinder you. You don’t have to live with the choices you have made. With this book, you can start afresh and make the changes you need to get to where you want to be. It’s time to get going.” (Adapted from Catalogue)

Accept, value and empower yourself: a practical guide to building self-esteem / Bonham-Carter, David
“A practical guide to help you believe in yourself and feel better. A Practical Guide to Building Self-Esteem brings you easy-to-follow techniques for improving your self-image, so you can achieve a realistic and positive view of yourself and live a happier and more successful life. A positive self-image can help you to improve your relationships and focus on what matters to you, whether that’s dealing with feelings of inadequacy, exploring your creativity, or improving physical fitness.” (Catalogue)

Laughing in the face of Winter: New Personal Development books

If we can’t walk in the sunshine literally, let’s do it mentally and take a walk on the positive side this month! Have a bit of a laugh in the face of winter and explore the concepts of boredom, freedom seeking and embracing amateurism. From seizing the day to wishing away your problems, back around to turning obstacles into triumphs, we have a wide range of hilarious and upbeat books to help get you through those winter blues!

Syndetics book coverYawn : adventures in boredom / Mary Mann.
“The incisive and often hilarious story of one of our most interesting cultural phenomena: boredom. Deftly wrought from interviews, research, and personal experience, Yawn follows Mary Mann’s search through history for the truth about boredom. From fourth-century Christian monks and the first recorded accounts of lethargy, to Thomas Cook and the the birth of tourism, right through to contemporary boredom in couples, prisoners and soldiers. With the sharp wit of Sloane Crosley and the historical acumen of Sarah Vowell, Mann tells the unexpected story of the hunt for a deeper understanding of boredom, in all its absurd, irritating, and inspiring splendor.” (Adapted from Syndetics summary)

Syndetics book coverWalking on sunshine : 52 small steps to happiness / Rachel Kelly
Walking on Sunshine offers fifty-two tips and tools (one for each week of the year) to increase your happiness year-round and help you manage the mood-altering pressures of everyday life. Some of the strategies relate to particular experiences and events, such as holidays or exams; others are useful at any time. An ideal book to dip into whenever the mood takes you.” (Adapted from Mightyape.co.nz)

Syndetics book coverThe wish : the 99 things we think we want most / Bill Griffin.
“A Few years ago, Bill Griffin launched Crowdwish, a website and app that simply asked people what three things they thought they wanted most. Wishes poured in from all over the world and 99 of the site’s most popular wishes, are reviewed in this book. The result is a snapshot of the hopes, dreams and desires that unite us all, part reflection on a fascinating social experiment, part humorous rumination on the nature of happiness and part instruction manual for life. The Wish is funny, upbeat and genuinely helpful and uniquely the book will be published with 99 different covers, a selection of which can be seen inside the cover.” (Adapted from Syndetics summary)

Syndetics book coverFreedom seeker : live more, worry less, do what you love / Beth Kempton.
“Are you itching to do something different, but don’t know what or how? Is fear holding you back from living the life you want? Beth Kempton went from being a life-loving, risk-taking adventurer to a grown-up, settled-down mother, wife and business owner, before realizing the life she had built was suffocating her. She set out on a journey to find personal freedom, and along the way encountered many others who were also feeling trapped – by their circumstances, relationships, finances, beliefs, doubts and fears. Freedom Seeker brings together the insights, techniques and wisdom that Beth learned on her journey to freedom and will help you to live more, worry less and find a way to do what you love, every day.” (Adapted from Syndetics summary)

Syndetics book coverThe obstacle is the way : the timeless art of turning trials into triumph / Ryan Holiday
“Throughout history, iconic examples of successful people, who were not exceptionally brilliant, lucky, or gifted, achieved their success by overcoming extreme obstacles following a timeless set of philosophical principles. Now Ryan Holiday unpacks those lessons and reframes them for today’s world, building on the wisdom of the ancient Stoics and a rich trove of examples. He shows us how to turn obstacles into advantages, through controlling our perceptions, swift and energetic action, and true force of will.” (Adapted from Syndetics summary)

Syndetics book coverMinimalism : live a meaningful life / Joshua Fields Millburn & Ryan Nicodemus.
“In their debut book, Joshua & Ryan, authors of the popular website TheMinimalists.com, explore their troubled pasts and descent into depression. After a pair of life-changing events, Joshua & Ryan discovered minimalism, allowing them to eliminate their excess material things so they could focus on life’s most important “things”: health, relationships, passion, growth, and contribution.” (Adapted from Syndetics summary)

Syndetics book coverThe amateur : the pleasures of doing what you love / Andy Merrifield.
“In a modern world that has been taken over by experts and professionals, Andy Merrifield argues that we have lost our amateur spirit and need to rediscover the radical and liberating pleasure of doing things we love. Work, knowledge, cities and politics — these areas of our lives have fallen into the hands of box tickers, bean counters and rule followers. In response, Merrifield corrals a team of independent thinkers, wayward poets and others who challenge the accepted wisdom, think the unthinkable, seek independence and change the world. The Amateur is a passionate manifesto for the liberated life, one that questions authority and reclaims the non-team player as a radical hero of our times. (Adapted from Syndetics summary)

Syndetics book coverCarpe diem : seizing the day in a distracted world / Roman Krznaric
“We’ve all heard the saying “seize the day.” But what does it really mean and how can we use it to jump-start our lives? In the age of distraction, carpe diem is more essential than ever. In this thought-provoking and empowering book, cultural writer Roman Krznaric unpacks the history, philosophy, and modern-day applications of “seizing the day” and delivers a rousing call to action for anyone who wants to improve their lives-or our world. ” (Adapted from Syndetics summary)

10 new self-help books to get you through August

It’s August and there is a light at the end of that winter tunnel! Have a bit of a laugh in the face of winter and explore life lessons from Making Your Bed all the way through to Adulthood for Beginners. We have a wide range of hilarious and upbeat books to help get you through those winter blues!

Syndetics book coverAdulthood for beginners : all the life secrets nobody bothered to tell you / Andy Boyle
“Many of us spend a decade or more figuring out how the world works through a humbling process of trial and error that by age 30 we’re hoping no one who was there remembers. Does Boyle have everything figured out? Of course not. But the breezy and funny advice, lists, jokes, and other helpful tidbits in this engaging book will help readers get through the hard parts faster!” (Adapted Syndetics summary)

Syndetics book coverLifetonic : a modern toolkit to help you heal your life and soothe your soul / Jody Shield.
LifeTonic engages you in a revolutionary experience designed to transform your soul at the highest level and shift you up a gear. Let Jody guide you safely through her powerful self-help tools and ‘tonics’ in order to overcome the negativity, fear and anxiety and issues that are holding you back from fulfilling your true potential. Learn how meditation can change your brain and can be easily integrated into your daily life.” (Adapted Syndetics summary)

Syndetics book coverLovelands / Dr Debra Campbell.
“Nothing is more important to us than love, yet nothing is more painful than love gone wrong. During the course of our lives, we can develop dangerous faultlines and crevasses in our inner emotional landscapes due to past hurts, losses and disappointments. Lovelands is psychologist Dr Debra Campbell’s map for traversing the treacherous terrain of love and cultivating the wisdom and self-compassion for healthy love relationships.” (Adapted Syndetics summary)

Syndetics book coverBarking up the wrong tree : the surprising science behind why everything you know about success is (mostly) wrong / Eric Barker.
“Much of the advice we’ve been told about achievement is logical, earnest…and downright wrong. By looking at what separates the extremely successful from the rest of us, we learn what we can do to be more like them, and find out in energsome cases why it’s good that we aren’t.” ( Adapted Syndetics summary)

Syndetics book coverThe zen of you & me : a guide to getting along with just about anyone / Diane Musho Hamilton.
“The people who get under your skin the most can in fact be your greatest teachers. It’s not a matter of overlooking differences, but of regarding those difficult aspects of the relationship with curiosity and compassion, for those very differences offer a path to profound connection. This practical, reality-based guide to living harmoniously with even your most irritating fellow humans, shows that “getting along” is really a matter of discovering that our differences are nothing other than an expression of our even deeper shared unity.” (Adapted Syndetics summary)

Syndetics book coverMicro-resilience : minor shifts for major boosts in focus, drive and energy / Bonnie St. John, Allen P. Haines.
“Leadership consultants and executive trainers, Bonnie St. John and Allen Haines heard the same story from clients for years; periodic burnout, lack of focus and low energy. So they dug into the latest research looking for big answers. Instead they found that small adjustments in daily routines, including thought patterns, food and drink, rest and movement can fight the forces that sap our energy and store focus and drive. They call these amazing efficient restorative techniques ‘micro-resilience.'” (Adapted Syndetics summary)

Syndetics book coverA colorful way of living : how to be more, create more, do more the Vera Bradley way / Barbara Bradley Baekgaard.
“From the co-founder of the Vera Bradley empire, a practical and inspiring book that shows women how to awaken their full potential, at any age. A Colorful Way of Living offers practical, inspiring advice to empower women to navigate life by the values that provide the foundation of the Vera Bradley empire. In this highly readable book, Barbara Bradley Baekgaard shares the values that have helped her to thrive in business, health, and relationships” (Adapted Syndetics summary)

Syndetics book coverEgo is the enemy / Ryan Holiday.
Ego Is the Enemy draws on a vast array of stories and examples, from literature to philosophy to his­tory. We meet fascinating figures such as George Marshall, Jackie Robinson, Katharine Graham, Bill Belichick, and Eleanor Roosevelt, who all reached the highest levels of power and success by con­quering their own egos. In an era that glorifies social media, reality TV, and other forms of shameless self-promotion, the battle against ego must be fought on many fronts. ” (Adapted Syndetics summary)

Syndetics book coverThe art of people : 11 simple people skills that will get you everything you want / Dave Kerpen.
“In a world where we are constantly connected, it’s those with the best people skills who win the day. Those who truly understand and connect with their colleagues, their customers, their partners. Those who others like, respect and trust. The Art of People reveals the 11 people skills that will get you more of what you want at work, at home and in life. Accessible, easy to execute and often counter-intuitive, Kerpen will show you how to charm and win over anyone, no matter who you are or what profession you’re in.” (Adapted Syndetics summary)

Syndetics book coverMake your bed : little things that can change your life… and maybe the world / Admiral William H. McRaven (U.S. Navy retired).
“If you want to change the world, start off by making your bed. On May 17, 2014, Admiral William H. McRaven addressed the graduating class of the University of Texas at Austin on their Commencement day. The original speech went viral with over 10 million views. Building on the core tenets laid out in his speech, McRaven provides simple wisdom, practical advice, and words of encouragement that will inspire readers to achieve more, even in life’s darkest moments.” (Adapted Syndetics summary)

To Self Help or Not Self Help – Recent Picks from Personal Development arrivals

This month, take a look at different ways of thinking and managing your life, explore the importance of habits and find simple exercises for building new routines. Find ways to manage stress and anxiety with a focus on positive thinking, kindness, generosity and fun! Then perhaps consider this advice for self-improvement from an entirely different angle, rejecting the urge for self improvement by urging self acceptance.

Syndetics book cover365 ways to live generously : simple habits for a life that’s good for you and for others / Sharon Lipinski.
365 Ways to Live Generously features lessons each day that focus on one of the seven generosity habits: Physical health, Mindfulness, Relationships, Connecting with yourself, Gratitude, Simplicity and Philanthropy. Each habit appears once a week, giving you a year to practice and make them all a part of your daily life. Learn why the habits are important, discover tips based on the latest research about making positive change, and explore simple exercises for building new routines.” (Adapted Syndetics summary)

Syndetics book coverStand firm : resisting the self-improvement craze / Svend Brinkman ; translated by Tam McTurk.
“How can we resist today’s obsession with introspection and self-improvement?In this witty and bestselling book, Danish philosopher and psychologist Svend Brinkmann argues that we must not be afraid to reject the self-help mantra and “stand firm”. The secret to a happier life lies not in finding your inner-self but in coming to terms with yourself. By encouraging us to stand firm and get a foothold in life, this insightful anti-self-help guide offers a sobering and realistic alternative to life-coaching, positive thinking and the need always to say yes!” (Provided by publisher)

Syndetics book coverMaybe it’s you : cut the crap, face your fears, love your life / Lauren Handel Zander, with Marnie Handel Nir.
Maybe It’s You picks up where You Are a Badass leaves off–it’s a no-nonsense, practical manual to help readers figure out not just what they want out of life, but how to actually get there. Filled with practical exercises, inspiring client stories, this book enables readers to identify, articulate, and account for their own setbacks so they can transform them into strengths.” (adapted Syndetics summary)

Syndetics book coverEyes wide open : overcoming obstacles and recognizing opportunities in a world that can’t see clearly / by Isaac Lidsky.
“When Isaac Lidsky learned that he was beginning to go blind at age thirteen, he initially thought that blindness would mean an end to his success and hopes for the future. Paradoxically, losing his sight gave him the vision to take responsibility for his reality and thrive. Whether we’re blind or not, our vision is limited by our past experiences, biases, and emotions. Lidsky shows us how we can overcome paralyzing fears, avoid falling prey to our own assumptions and live with open hearts and minds.” (adapted Syndetics summary)

Syndetics book coverWillpower : discover it, use it and get what you want / Ros Taylor.
“Willpower is the heartbeat of a successful, fulfilling work and personal life. But you either have willpower or you don’t, right? Regardless of what you want to achieve and where you’re starting from, Willpower shows you how to: practice the scientifically-proven skill set for enhancing you willpower; make progress immediately and have new, positive habits in just three weeks.The difference between those who get what they want and those who don’t comes down to self-control, Willpower is the way you master it and use it for personal and professional success.” (adapted Syndetics summary)

Syndetics book coverNotes from the sick room / Steve Finbow.
“Incapacity provides time for contemplation and creativity yet pain and discomfort detract from inspiration. Serious illness confronts the individual with the reality of death, the complacency of being is jolted by the shock of non-being. Notes from the Sick Room is an investigation into the connections between physical illness and creativity, concentrating on physical illness – cancer, HIV, tuberculosis and disabilities caused by accidents. ” (adapted from Amazon)

Syndetics book coverThe success intersection : what happens when your talent meets your passion / Pat Williams with Jim Denney.
“From the age of seven, Pat Williams’s greatest passion was baseball. However, after two years in the minors, he had to admit it was not his greatest talent. But a phenomenally successful career in sports was just beginning and when he combined his passion for sports with his greatest talents-leadership, salesmanship, and promotion, he found his success intersection. Williams shows readers how to a) identify their greatest talent b) pursue their greatest passion and c) multiply their efforts through teamwork. Readers will discover how to maximize their natural gifting, focus their enthusiasm, and leverage their talent and passion into a lifetime of success.” (adapted Syndetics summary)

Syndetics book coverLife after loss : a practical guide to renewing your life after experiencing major loss / Bob Deits.
“One of the classics in the field of crisis intervention” (Dr. Earl Grollman), Life after Loss is the go-to resource for anyone who has suffered a significant life change. Loss can be overwhelming, and recovery often seems daunting, if not impossible. With great compassion and insight, Deits provides practical exercises for navigating the uncertain terrain of loss and grief, helping readers find positive ways to put together a life that is necessarily different, but equally meaningful. (adapted from Amazon)

 

Self Help December – Cultivate your sense of adventure and independence and reclaim your creativity

These could be New Year resolutions with far reaching implications, subverting the current consensus on tidiness and connectivity. Food for thought during the festive season!

Syndetics book coverThe happiness purpose
“First published in 1977, this extraordinarily prescient book sets out de Bono’s method for achieving the ultimate 21st century goal: work-life balance. Defined in terms of life-space and self-space , de Bono invites the reader to look at their life and measure the gap between these spaces–the smaller the gap, the greater our chances at happiness; but if the life-space is vastly bigger than the self-space, our coping ability is compromised and anxiety is likely. For anyone concerned with happiness and life-fulfilment this book is essential reading, and is perhaps more resonant with readers now than ever before.” (Syndetics)

Syndetics book coverI am right, you are wrong : from this to the new renaissance : from rock logic to water logic
“”The classic work about choice in business and in life. Most of our everyday decision-making tends to be confrontational. Whether in large meetings, one-to-one or even in our own heads, opposite view points are pitted against each other. In I Am Right – You Are Wrong, lateral-thinking guru Edward de Bono challenges this ‘rock logic’ of rigid categories and point-scoring arguments which is both destructive and exhausting. Instead he reveals how we can all be winners. Clearer perception is the key to constructive thinking and more open-minded creativity. In overturning conventional wisdom, Edward de Bono will help you to become a better thinker and decision maker. ” (Syndetics)

Syndetics book coverThe 2 AM principle : discover the science of adventure
“Adventures don’t happen by accident – just ask Jon Levy. Once a high school geek, he is now a world-traveling behavior scientist and the creator of the EPIC Model of Adventure, a breakthrough four-stage process for creating unforgettable experiences – from assembling the right team and the finer points of party crashing, to the science of being funny and ending the evening with style. The 2 AM principle combines outrageous triumphs, embarrassing failures, and life-changing lessons from Levy’s adventures with concrete science to show anyone how to life life more fully and adventurously.”(Syndetics)

Syndetics book coverToo fast to think : how to reclaim your creativity in a hyper-connected work culture
“Our lives are getting faster and faster. We are too busy, too overloaded with information and too focused on analytical left-brain thinking processes to be creative. Too Fast to Think exposes how our current work practices, media culture and education systems are detrimental to innovation. The speed and noise of modern life is undermining the clarity and quiet that is essential to power individual thought. Our best ideas are often generated when we are free to think diffusely, in an uninterrupted environment, which is why moments of inspiration so often occur in places completely separate to our offices. Too Fast to Think teaches you how to retrain your brain into allowing creative ideas to emerge, before they are shut down by interruption, distraction or the self-doubt of your over-rational brain. Chris Lewis takes a holistic approach to explain the 8 crucial traits that are inherently linked to creation and innovation.” (Syndetics)

Syndetics book coverMessy : how to be creative and resilient in a tidy-minded world
“Messiness adds benefits to our lives, so why do we resist the concept so? Harford uses research from neuroscience, psychology and social science to explain why disorder, confusion, and disarray are actually lies at the core of how we innovate, how we achieve, how we reach each other. He shows that the human inclination for tidiness can mask a deep and debilitating fragility that keep us from innovation.”(Syndetics)

Syndetics book coverUnfollow : living life on your own terms
“We live in a world that floods us with expectations about everything – from what we should weigh to what we should wear to how often we should be having sex and how much money we should be making. As a consequence, we begin to feel that we need to tick all these boxes in order to have ‘the Perfect Life’. When we inevitably fall short, we feel anxious – we feel that we are failing and have the sense we are losing control. As a result, increasing numbers of young women are battling with issues such as anxiety, low self-esteem, bullying, perfectionism, toxic friendships and relationships, pressure to succeed or conform, and poor body image. At an age when life should be exciting, fun and relatively care-free, more and more young women are adrift and struggling. This book offers valuable insight and practical self-help to empower women to throw off the burden of expectation and start leading the lives they want to lead.”(Syndetics)

Syndetics book coverFear 
“In Fear, the world’s greatest explorer delves into his own experiences to try and explain what fear is, how it happens and how he’s overcome it so successfully. He examines key moments from history where fear played an important part in the outcome of a great event. He shows us how the brain perceives fear, how that manifests itself in us, and how we can transform our perceptions. With an enthralling combination of story-telling, research and personal accounts of his own struggles to overcome fear, Sir Ranulph Fiennes sheds new light on one of humanity’s strongest emotions.”(Syndetics)

Syndetics book coverBetween two worlds : lessons from the other side
“Tyler Henry discovered his gift for communicating with the departed when he was just ten years old. After experiencing a sudden, accurate premonition of his grandmother’s death–what Tyler would later describe as his first experience of “knowingness”–life would never be the same. Now in his twenties, Tyler is a renowned, practicing medium, star of the smash hit E! reality show, Hollywood Medium with Tyler Henry , and go-to clairvoyant of celebrities, VIP’s, and those simply looking for closure and healing. Despite struggling to accept his rare talent, Tyler grew to embrace it, and finally found the courage to share it. For the first time, Tyler pulls back the curtain on living life as a medium in his first memoir, in which he fearlessly opens up about discovering his gift as an adolescent, what it’s truly like to communicate with those who have passed, the power of symbolism in his readings, and the lessons we can learn from our departed loved ones. Tyler discusses how readings can impact our relationships with our closest friends and family once they’re gone.” (Syndetics)

Syndetics book coverThe game of life and how to play it
“Written almost a century ago, The Game of Life is a classic in the field of personal development. Louise Hay, whose books have brought inspiration, hope, and healing to millions of people around the world, credits The Game of Life and the whole body of work by Florence Scovel Shinn for guiding her at a key turning point in her life. With their clarity, simplicity, and force, Florence’s teachings have profoundly shaped the fields of personal development and spiritual growth over the decades. In this transformational classic, Florence teaches the power of positive thought. She explains how our thoughts and words affect the experience we have in our daily lives, and uses concrete examples to show how we can use them to bring more of what we want into our lives, including abundance, love, and success.” (Syndetics)

Syndetics book coverLife on Earth : understanding who we are, how we got here, and what may lie ahead
“Life on Earth takes the form of a journal in which Mike Dooley asks what’s on his mind during pivotal times in his life. As one of today’s most respected New Thought leaders and reality theorists, he offers a lofty platform for this wide-ranging dialogue that powerfully expands our perspectives on essential truths, taking on topics such as:- Why and how to see through the “illusions” of life on earth- How to make sense of natural disasters and manmade tragedies- Living deliberately, creating consciously, and finding your power- Wealth, relationships, “past lives,” and the evolution of consciousness- The ultimate reason for life on earth, and elsewhere (it’s shockingly simple). These are questions asked from the heart with a cautious, even suspicious, mind. Mike explores the subtletiesof the replies in depth and detail using his trademark wit and realism, in this intrepid explorer’s guide to the jungles of time and space.”(Syndetics)

Syndetics book coverTools of titans : the tactics, routines, and habits of billionaires, icons, and world-class performers 
“The latest groundbreaking tome from Tim Ferriss, the #1 New York Times best-selling author of The 4-Hour Workweek .
From the author:
“For the last two years, I’ve interviewed more than 200 world-class performers for my podcast, The Tim Ferriss Show. The guests range from super celebs (Jamie Foxx, Arnold Schwarzenegger, etc.) and athletes (icons of powerlifting, gymnastics, surfing, etc.) to legendary Special Operations commanders and black-market biochemists. For most of my guests, it’s the first time they’ve agreed to a two-to-three-hour interview. This unusual depth has helped make The Tim Ferriss Show the first business/interview podcast to pass 100 million downloads. “This book contains the distilled tools, tactics, and ‘inside baseball’ you won’t find anywhere else. It also includes new tips from past guests, and life lessons from new ‘guests’ you haven’t met.”(Syndetics)

Self-Help recent picks – Learning to relax and thrive in a time of uncertainty

Times of crisis trigger stress and fear in the face of events we have no control over. This month’s books will inspire to find the power AND emotional agility within to help you not only cope with life’s trials but to thrive.

Syndetics book coverHappy : why more or less everything is absolutely fine
” Across the millennia, philosophers have thought long and hard about happiness, and come up with all sorts of different definitions and ideas for how we might live a happier life. This book explores the history of happiness from classical times until today, when the self-help industry has attempted to claim happiness as its own. His aim is to reclaim happiness for us all, and enable us to appreciate the really good things in life for what they are. Fascinating, entertaining and revelatory, this is a book for anyone who has ever wondered if there must be more to life.”(Syndetics)

Syndetics book coverHappiness and other small things of absolute importance / Haim Shapira ; translated from the Hebrew by Baruch Gefen.
“Join Haim Shapira as he navigates the terrain of happiness exploring and contemplating an eclectic range of theories and insights into the conflicts we face as we interpret and consider our lives on our journey to creating our own happiness.”(Syndetics)

Syndetics book coverThe universe has your back : transform fear to faith
“In her latest book, The Universe Has Your Back, New York Times best-selling author Gabrielle Bernstein teaches readers how to transform their fear into faith in order to live a divinely guided life. Each story and lesson in the book guides readers to release the blocks to what they most long for: happiness, security and clear direction. The lessons help readers relinquish the need to control so they can relax into a sense of certainty and freedom. Making the shift from fear to faith will give readers a sense of power in a world that all too often makes them feel utterly powerless. When the tragedies of the world seem overwhelming, this book will help guide them back to their true power.” (Syndetics)

Syndetics book coverHunting the killer idea : capturing the creative process
“Hunting the Killer Idea takes the intrepid reader through the jungle of the mind as the creative process is brought to life in vivid detail. Examining what it is that makes great ideas stand the test of time as we attempt to capture the essence of creativity. Along the way we talk to those who have hunted down their own Killer Idea and lived to tell the tale. An artist, Ad-legend, anarchist, rock-star, philosopher and many other heros and villains relive the thrill of the chase and pass on their unconventional and original advice. Whether you’re the creative type or not, starting a business, studying, making art or just mucking around. This book is essential reading for anyone who knows they’ve got a Killer Idea hiding somewhere deep inside.” (Syndetics)

Syndetics book coverWhat if this is heaven? : how our cultural myths prevent us from experiencing heaven on earth
“Following her near-death experience as shared in the New York Times bestseller Dying to Be Me , Anita Moorjani knows well the truths that exist beyond common knowledge and acceptance. The clarity she has gained has led her to further understand who she was born to be. Part of that truth has involved contemplating the cultural myths infused into our everyday lives. Moorjani asserts it is now time for questioning in order to help us reach our fully informed, authentic selves.”(Syndetics)

Syndetics book coverTalent is overrated : what really separates world-class performers from everybody else 
“Fortune magazine editor Geoff Colvin offers new evidence that top performers in any field are not determined by their inborn talents. Greatness, he argues, does not come from DNA but from practice and perseverance honed over decades. The key to this is how successful people practice, how the results of practice are analysed and how they learn from their mistakes. This new mindset will change the way reader’s think about their jobs and careers, and will inspire them to achieve more in all they do.” (Syndetics)

Syndetics book coverOne plus one equals three : a masterclass in creative thinking
“How do you make something out of nothing? This book goes straight to the heart of the creative impulse. Combining Dave Trott’s distinctive, almost Zen-like storytelling, humor and practical advice, its collection of provocative anecdotes and thought experiments are designed to light a fire under your own creative ambitions. From tales of 18th century Japanese samurai to classic battles between “creatives” and “suits” in the boardroom, these stories act as a rallying cry for individuals and businesses who want to think differently, stand out and challenge convention.” (Syndetics)

Syndetics book coverOrganize your emotions, optimize your life : decode your emotional DNA–and thrive
“Organize Your Emotions, Optimize Your Life combines the worlds of self-help, psychology, and medical science to guide you to a place of self-management and control. This insightful, approachable book will teach you how to identify, decode, and assess the nine most basic emotions that rule your brain and to recognize each of these voices and act accordingly to achieve a wide range of goals–from weight loss to career management. Coach your brain to gain deeper insight of your individual needs and live life to your maximum potential.” (Syndetics)

Syndetics book coverHighly sensitive people : in an insensitive world : how to create a happy life
“In today’s fast-paced, increasingly public society, we are expected to be resilient, to have the energy to manage a packed work schedule, social calendar, and a large network of friends, both online and offline, day and night. Written for highly sensitive people, the book explains the characteristics of being highly sensitive and how to overcome common difficulties, such as low self-esteem and the exhausting effects of socialising. Ilse Sand also encourages you to explore and appreciate the advantages of high sensitivity, including your aptitude for depth, intensity and presence, and suggests activities to calm and inspire.” (Syndetics)

Syndetics book coverEmotional agility : get unstuck, embrace change, and thrive in work and life
“The path to personal and professional fulfillment is rarely straight. Ask anyone who has achieved his or her biggest goals or whose relationships thrive and you’ll hear stories of many unexpected detours along the way. What separates those who master these challenges and those who get derailed? The answer is emotional agility. Emotionally agile people are not immune to stresses and setbacks. The key difference is that they know how to adapt, aligning their actions with their values and making small but powerful changes that lead to a lifetime of growth. Emotional agility is not about ignoring difficult emotions and thoughts; it’s about holding them loosely, facing them courageously and compassionately, and then moving past them to bring the best of yourself forward. Emotional Agility serves as a road map for a new way of acting that will help you reach your full potential.” (Syndetics)