How to guides to life

Because we can all do with a little bit of help and encouragement, here is a selection of books that will guide you through life’s meandering journey.

Syndetics book coverCould I do that? 
Yes you can!
Hands up who feels like a completely inadequate underachiever whenever you hear about someone’s great achievement. When someone in the office is off cycling around the world, or someone on TV has just launched a great new business which will save the planet? Most of us envy the drive and determination of these people. They’ve actually made this stuff happen rather than just day-dreamed about it. We all ask… Could I Do That?
Well Simon Hartley is here to show us that we can! Taking on a challenge – big or small – in your career or personal life, can be intimidating but also totally transformational. Simon will show us how to work out what it is we want to do and then how to make that happen. He uses examples and advice from others who have achieved big things.
The book examines how you should go about preparing for change, which problems you’ll face along the way, and demonstrates why and how your life will be better as a consequence.
Practical and motivational, it’s about embracing change and defeating limiting beliefs
It challenges readers to think big and take steps to achieving their goals
It puts power in the hands of people who don’t yet realise that they can do extraordinary things too.” (From amazon.com)

Syndetics book coverRisk savvy : how to make good decisions / Gerd Gigerenzer.
Posits that “most of us, including doctors, lawyers, financial advisers, and elected officials, misunderstand statistics much more often than we think, leaving us not only misinformed, but vulnerable to exploitation. Yet there is hope. Anyone can learn to make better decisions for their health, finances, family, and business without needing to consult an expert or a super computer, and Gigerenzer shows us how”. (Syndetics)

Syndetics book coverThe life plan : 700 simple ways to change your life for the better / Robert Ashton.
“Do you ever feel you’re just floating through life with a lack of direction? Or get that nagging feeling that things could be better? People’s lives can be thought of as stories -filled with challenges, turbulence and adventure – and, like all great classic stories, they follow a pattern. By understanding this pattern, you can develop the perspective you need to write your own story and live an extraordinary life. Your Life Plan brings together practical tools and approaches to help you master the art of personal change, by developing a plan to identify and realize your life goals.” (Back cover)

Syndetics book coverThe ecstasy of surrender : 12 surprising ways letting go can empower your life / Dr Judith Orloff.
“In this hope-filled offering, Orloff (Emotional Freedom) posits that the only way to live a powerful, successful life is to surrender to it. Blending neuroscience, energy medicine, psychiatry, and the art of intuition, Orloff, an assistant clinical professor of psychiatry at UCLA, addresses major life issues by breaking them into 12 different “surrenders,” including “redefining true success, power, and happiness”; the “four vital insights into power and letting go”; “cultivating impeccable communication”; and “exploring the divinity of your body and sexuality.” With a compassionate and empowering tone, she counsels others not to micromanage life details, but to be in “flow” with them and to look for the lessons in all situations as well as to refuse to live a life governed by fear. Self-assessment quizzes allow readers to measure their level of involvement in self-defeating behaviors; helpful and non-judgmental suggestions provide strategies for overcoming these negative mind-sets. Orloff demonstrates her own adherence to these principles by unflinchingly sharing her own experiences in the spirit of teaching others.” (Syndetics)

Syndetics book coverLiving with intensity : understanding the sensitivity, excitability, and emotional development of gifted children, adolescents, and adults “Gifted children and adults are often misunderstood. Their excitement is viewed as excessive, their high energy as hyperactivity, their persistence as nagging, their imagination as not paying attention, their passion as being disruptive, their strong emotions and sensitivity as immaturity, their creativity and self-directedness as oppositional.
This resource describes these overexcitabilities and strategies for dealing with children and adults who are experiencing them, and provides essential information about Dabrowski s Theory of Positive Disintegration. Learn practical methods for nurturing sensitivity, intensity, perfectionism, and much more.” (From amazon.com)

Syndetics book coverThe good psychopath’s guide to success / Kevin Dutton & Andy McNab ; cartoons by Rob Murray.
“What is a good psychopath? And how can thinking like one help you to be the best that you can be?
Dr Kevin Dutton has spent a lifetime studying psychopaths. He first met former SAS hero Andy McNab during a research project. What he found surprised him. McNab is a diagnosed psychopath but he is a GOOD PSYCHOPATH. Unlike a BAD PSYCHOPATH, he is able to dial up or down qualities such as ruthlessness, fearlessness, conscience and empathy to get the very best out of himself — and others — in a wide range of situations.
Using the unique combination of Andy McNab’s wild and various experiences and Professor Kevin Dutton’s expertise in analysing them, together they have explored the ways in which a good psychopath thinks differently and what that could mean for you. What do you really want from life, and how can you develop and use qualities such as charm, coolness under pressure, self-confidence and courage to get it? The Good Psychopath Guide to Success gives you an entertaining and thought-provoking road-map to self-fulfillment both in your personal life and your career.” (Back cover)

Syndetics book coverLaugh your way to happiness : use the science of laughter for total well-being / Leslie Lyle.
“Lyle, neuro-linguistic programming practitioner and founder of Laughter Business, introduces readers to Laughter Yoga, the practice of “laughing for no reason” popularized by Dr. Madan Kataria, and its physical and psychological benefits. She details her trip to study with Kataria at the School of Ancient Wisdom in India, his methods, and her struggle with doubt and self-criticism that was resolved in a powerful “moment of simple joy.” Lyle started a “laughter club” at a pub where members experience joy through laughter and group activities. Scientifically, Lyle discusses laughter as a natural stress reliever and empathic response that strengthens the immune system and increases blood flow and pain tolerance. She shares examples of therapeutic exercises, some Dr. Kataria’s and some her own, including speaking gibberish, “milkshake laughter,” and bringing levity to otherwise dull tasks. Lyle also recommends practicing a state of childlike exuberance that she calls “Elliotology,” named after a friend’s two-year-old son. Additionally, her guide to self-hypnosis purports to manage the symptoms of psychosomatic illnesses. This is a good introductory text to Laughter Yoga, and Lyle’s narrative adds a personal touch; however, much of this information is available on her own website for free.” (Syndetics)

Syndetics book coverNice girls don’t get the corner office : unconscious mistakes women make that sabotage their careers / Lois P. Frankel, PhD.
“The New York Times bestseller, which has become a must-have for women in business, is now revised and updated in celebration of its 10th anniversary. Internationally recognized executive coach Dr. Lois P. Frankel teacher women how to eliminate unconscious mistakes that could be holding them back, and gives invaluable coaching tips that can easily be incorporated into social and business skills. The results are career opportunities women never thought possible and the power and know-how to occupy the corner office! Stop making “nice girl” mistakes such as: -Mistake #13: Avoiding office politics -Mistake #21: Multi-tasking -Mistake #54: Failure to negotiate -Mistake #82: Asking permission -Mistake #100: Smiling inappropriately. These and other behaviors are why Nice girls don’t get the corner office.” (Syndetics)

Syndetics book coverIt ain’t over … till it’s over : reinventing your life- and realizing your dreams- anytime, at any age / Marlo Thomas.
“Introduces readers to sixty amazing women who are proving that it’s never too late to live out a dream — to launch a business, travel the world, get a PhD, indulge a creative impulse, make a family recipe famous, escape danger, find love, or fill a void in life with a challenging new experience.” (Syndetics)

Syndetics book coverThe pocket book of positives : a reassuring companion for life’s journey.“Life’s journey can sometimes seem like a succession of trip hazards, with fate deliberately placing obstacles in your path. At times like these, devling into The Pocket Book of Positivies will provide the tonic you need, helping you to put life in perspective and find the strength to look the world squarely in the eye. Picking you up and dusting you down will be – among others – Maya Angelou, Bertold Brecht, Marie Curie, Samuel Johnson, Carl Jung, Franz Kafka, Abraham Lincoln ans Socrates.” (Back cover)